Ladies, Don't Make This HUGE Mistake When Getting A Divorce

Don't make it harder than it already is.

You and your spouse have decided it’s time to end your marriage, or maybe just one of you wants out. Either way, get prepared for a ride on the biggest emotional roller coaster ever.

Divorce is one of the hardest things you will go through in your life.

There are so many complicated emotional, financial, spiritual, and familial aspects to consider and handle, and all at a time when you're feeling so down. You have to attempt to be rational and clear-headed when everything around you seems like it's falling apart. Meanwhile, what you really want to do is crawl under a blanket, crack open a pint of Ben & Jerry's, and binge-watch Netflix.


But you can’t. You have to address your children’s confusions, pain and possibly anger. You have to communicate sanely with your former spouse. You have to continue to meet expectations in your career. You have to deal with your own emotions  anger, guilt, sadness, loneliness. You have to continue managing your life.

So how do we cope?

As women, we're emotional creatures whether we want to admit it or not. Our ability to better communicate between both sides of our brains suddenly becomes a detriment, not an asset. Extreme pain, frustration, anger and other intense emotions tend to clutter our brains and we feel the urgent and persistent need to vent these feelings to our family, friends, co-workers — anyone who will listen.


Complicating the picture even more, there's the added financial stress.

Divorce is EXPENSIVE and time-consuming. You'll probably be working with a lawyer to mediate the division of assets and handle court proceedings, and every minute with your lawyer is precious money from your pocket. A lawyer’s focus is your divorce — handling all the legal aspects in as timely a manner as possible. The lawyer is on YOUR side, but you have your own set of responsibilities in the lawyer/client relationship.

And that brings us to our YourTango Experts Video.

Kimberly Mishkin and Liza Caldwell are founders of SAS For Women and have been offering some of the BEST divorce support and coaching since 2012. They have some advice about the mistakes we make when going through a divorce that every women should hear!

If you want to learn more essential divorce tips, visit the SAS For Women website.

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