If You Lose Someone, But Find Yourself — You've Won

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Congrats, you're no longer desperate.

Breakups hurt because they're defined by loss. 

You lose out on new memories, potential happiness, and a relationship with someone you've grown very close too. Breaking up is essentially a grieving process. One in which healing requires sappy movies and drunk texting your middle school crush. 

And while being upset over a breakup is normal and required to move on, it doesn't mean we have to believe the sky is falling. The relationship ended, not the world. 


At first, it's easy to experience some kind of identity crisis right after a breakup, especially if you've been dating a long time. 

You have to figure out how to handle friendships you made together, upcoming vacations, shared goals and sometimes even housing situations. In some cases, breaking up changes literally everything.

It's scary and overwhelming. But once you adapt and learn how to live your life independently, it can be the most beautiful, wonderful, amazing thing you've ever experienced. 

And no, I'm not exaggerating. 


Out of all the quotes you've been pinning on Pinterest, I'm sure there have been plenty that say something like "everything happens for a reason." Sometimes the reason is as simple as you needed this person — and this breakup — to get back in touch with yourself. 

So when you're ready to get off the couch and see the sun again, try beginning to let go of the idea that breakups are about loss. Because if you play your cards right and learn that you don't need to be in a relationship to be happy, then you'll figure out that you still have so much to gain. 



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