If He's Dumb Enough To Walk Away, Be Smart Enough To Let Him Go

There are a lot of confusing, unspoken rules when it comes to dating. 

Most things — like whether or not you should text him first — are completely at the mercy of your individual situation. Though there are very few hard and fast rules you should live by, I believe there's one thing you should never, ever do: chase after a guy who's not invested in you. 

"But Emily, how do I know if a guy isn't invested in me?? And why wouldn't he be?? What's wrong with him???"

Well, a lot of things, but that's for another day. 

If you need still need hint, then you might have to force yourself to see the writing on the wall. Because the answer is probably already there, in big bold letters. 

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If a guy is invested in you, interested in having a real relationship with you, then he's going to act like it. 

The beautifully annoying thing about men is that most of the time they're pretty easy to read.

Whatever they say is usually what they mean, and that meaning is backed up by their actions. 

So if they're telling you that they're not ready for a relationship, don't overanalyze it to mean "I want you to wait for me."

In fact, if there is any hesitation at all from the guy ... then you should probably start looking elsewhere. 

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but if a guy isn't acting like he's interested in you, then he's probably not interested in you. 

So let him go. 

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Dating is full of games, some fun and some shitty. You're going to have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince. But once you realize those frogs are actually really gross, jerky frogs, then toss them back into the effing pond. Don't keep kissing them hoping that the magic is just waiting for the right moment. 

You're in it for the long haul, so you should wait for someone that is, too.