If You VALUE Yourself, Stop Doing THIS And Leave Him

Heartbreak, Love

You need to do this for YOU.

At first, he was perfect — he seemed to adore you, complimented you and wanted to be with you ALL the time. His jealousy was cute and made you feel loved. The late-night phone calls checking on you made you feel cared for and protected. You were amazed when he didn’t hesitate to move in with you — in fact, he was eager!

How could this be bad? But eventually, those endearing little quirks can become worrisome red flags.

Suddenly and increasingly, he hates your friends and doesn’t want you to spend time with them. He is withdrawn and sullen around your family. He acts loving one minute then angry the next over something ridiculously petty. He tells you he loves you, then says something cruel about you or your appearance. He’s controlling, possessive and jealous. He blames you or others for everything that goes wrong in his life.

Do any of these scenarios sound all too familiar? Why are we continually drawn back into destructive relationships?

Like some nightmarish scene from a horror movie, life can become a series of confused extremes when you find yourself constantly walking on eggshells — fearful of doing something that will set him off. If you’ve tried to leave, he may have promised to change just long enough to suck you back in.

Tragically, in a situation like this, you can lose your sense of self and begin a numb existence — helpless and wondering if you’ll ever escape this torture.

But what happens when you've finally had enough? When the time has come and your wilted spirit is crying for resurrection, how do you get OUT?

Know-It-All Nancy Nichols has some down-to-earth, practical advice on this topic and more. To learn about her work, visit her website.  And don't forget to check out her trilogy, God Please Fix Me — it's a book series you won't soon forget.



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