How Tell Your Man You Want To Try Something Kinky In The Bedroom

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Open up without freaking him out.

Has sex with your man become, well ...  vanilla?

I mean, your sex life is ‘OK,’ and always has been, but — it seems that things feel a little stale and routine lately. Maybe you feel like you're in a sexual rut because foreplay and intercourse always seem soooo predictable.

Frankly, you're bored, and you know (or, at least, guess) that your man is probably bored, too ... even though you two haven’t really discussed the matter. The time just never seems right to broach the subject, and, honestly, you’re a little wary of hurting his feelings or making him feel inadequate sexually if you mention your desire to try something a little kinky

So, you cope by letting your mind wander elsewhere. 

More and more often, you find yourself fantasizing about the sexcapades you read about in books and magazines (from sexy stories to full-on erotica). You don't want to pull your sexual energy away from the man you love, but you're not quite sure how to approach him with your desires. Will he freak out if you tell him you want to explore dressing up in costumes, or watch porn together, or (gasp!) experiment with a little bondage?

To make matters worse, you’re starting to fear that the two of you have lost your spark permanently, or worse — that you’ve fallen out of love! You don’t want to think this way, but you do. But, that's silly, right? After all, your relationship is so solid. Isn't it? 

Ladies, it's time to have the conversation you're avoiding! 

How do you start this awkward conversation with your man and let him know that you want to experiment sexually (whether that's trying a new position or something a bit ‘kinky’)? It turns out, the very thing you've been using for sexual distraction can serve as a bridge to rekindling sexual connection with your man.

Just like you're harboring your own sexual fantasies in secret, your man probably has a few of his own he's never shared. In the video above, Expert Pam Denton shares how to use erotica to help you experiment a bit in the bedroom. By following her advice, chances are very good that your man will feel relieved you brought the subject up and willingly share his desires with you, as well.

Who knows, that first conversation might ignite a new world of exciting sexual adventures that you two share together, saving your sex life and your relationship. So, gather up your courage and talk to him soon.

If you need some help figuring out what to say, reach out to Dr. Pam Denton. She'll help you entice your hubby into some of your erotic fantasies!

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