I Used A Flogger And Blindfold To Have My Way With My Man

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One of the best little bits of sex play advice I ever got was from a teen-magazine-type article with a bunch of silly tips — like decorating the parts of your body you'd want someone to lick with cake frosting, and then wait in a strategic location for them to come home.

Okay, I have to address that. Slight detour. 

WHY would you put sugary things in or on your vagina!?!?

Oh. Is it just me that thinks of their vagina when reading “wherever you want to be licked?

Or maybe it’s just me who wonders what position I’d sit in and what I would do while I waited — then pictures infections growing in delicate places and sticky furniture I'll have to clean up later.

Anyway …

The article, full of all kinds of additional nonsense like putting a lit candle in your vagina, also recommended using a blindfold when trying something new because it takes away a bit of the nervousness about being watched, and it heightens the senses of the person receiving the stimulus.

Perfect. I bought a blindfold to use that night.

I headed to my friendly local sex store and got comfy leather cuffs, a little metal thing called a “quick release double bolt snap” that sorta looks like a double-sided dog leash connector that can hold the rings on the cuffs together (making them into a sort-of-more-comfortable set of hand cuffs). I didn’t feel up to the challenge of using rope to bind my lover, but I  did want him at my mercy.

I also bought a little leather crop and a small rubber flogger. (A flogger is a handle with a bunch of tresses or falls. Think of a wig with a handle made of leather, rope or rubber most commonly).

Hmm … exciting! I could bind him, blindfold him and have my way with him.

Now, what would I do with my advantage? More nail biting occurred as I thought of his favorite things? No no no.

I wanted to do something I don’t always do.

I thought of all the spiky, cold, warm and soft things around my house, and when I got home I made a kit of things I would try.

I wanted to play with him a while, like a fly caught in my web, pairing sensations with pleasure and a little tiny bit of pain, just enough to be delicious.

Thus prepared, I met him at the door as usual and brought him down to my bedroom.

I got him comfortable and we made out a bit. When he was down to his boxers, I pulled out the leather cuffs and the blindfold I’d bought and asked if he’d be up to trying something with me. I explained that I wanted to play with his senses, but that I would not do anything that would leave a mark or hurt very much, and I agreed not to touch him where he didn’t want to be touched and to stop immediately if he asked me to.

He was pretty eager for the games to begin. Huzzah!

I put the blindfold on him as I pulled out my kit and went upstairs for the things I’d put in the freezer.

I didn’t bind his hands for that, because it’s a pretty big no-no to leave a person in bondage while someone isn’t in the room with them.

It was only cuffs, and I wasn’t attaching them to anything and he could just stand up, remove his blindfold and walk away if trouble or a fire ensued, but still. It’s a great idea to have a few safety rules in place when you engage in sex play — a few hard and fast rules like not leaving bound people alone make sense.

Safety first, right?

So I returned with my ice-cubes and my cold fork.

I pulled out a little spiky metal wheel (known as a wartenberg wheel). I lit a massage candle and pulled out a feathered garment. I placed the crop and the flogger on the bed by him. And I assembled the rest of the plethora of things on the nightstand and got to work.

Then I straddled him, put the cuffs on him, and snapped them together.

I kissed, licked, nibbled and teased him as I worked my way down his body. When he became aroused, I pulled out my feathered garment and tickled his skin.

With each step, I increased the intensity of the sensations. I used the little wheel with spikes, then lightly raked his skin with the very cold fork. I drank a little of the hot water I’d put nearby and alternated kissing and licking his body and sucking his cock with warm water in my mouth with running cold ice-cubes over his body in between.

I poured the massage-candle’s warm oil on him and rubbed it in. I teased and tantalized him and mixed kisses and licks and nibbles with everything. I hit him with the crop, starting very lightly and working up to good snaps that made him jump and redden just a little.

I used the little flogger the same way, starting out by tickling his flesh with the tresses and ending up giving him good solid whacks with the thing.

With each new addition, I worked him up and introduced another sensation, mixing the sensual and the sexual with the stimulus, and building passion over time.

And it was a LOT of fun!

When I finally got him to beg, I gave him a reward, only to continue teasing him again.

When neither one of us could take it anymore I fucked him silly, riding him like a frenzied cowgirl — with him still wearing the blindfold and the cuffs.

It was hot. It was CRAZY hot.

You can make fun of teen-magazine-type sex tips all you like, (and I’ll likely join you) but I’ve gotten so much out of my suggested blindfold. It really does give me a little confidence, and it does heighten the sensation of the wearer.

There’s something wonderful about trying things on a person who can’t see and judge me, and something erotic about not knowing what I will do or where I will strike next for the wearer.

It makes me feel a little powerful, and gives me license to play. It’s an easy way to make pretty simple things just a little more erotic or kinky.

Gee, thanks teen-sex-advice-type person!

I might even forgive the suggestion to put sugary things in or on vaginas.

Mmm. Maybe not. But the blindfold thing was a good tip!

This article was originally published at Life on the Swingset. Reprinted with permission from the author.

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