Stop making excuses.
It's time for a reality check.
Men: It's easy to blame women for not liking you because of money instead of taking a look at yourself and realizing you haven't done anything significant for anyone to admire. Of course women don't like you — you don't even like yourself and money won't fix your problem.
Being single, broke, unhealthy and negative are just symptoms of your lack of professionalism and ambition in life; everything you don't have is a result of your self-defeating attitude.
It never changes; whenever there is an article about how to get into a relationship, the insecure trolls come out of the woodwork to cast their negative shadow. “You need money to attract women!” they chant. Yet they fail to attribute their own failures to themselves.
As for the guys who complain they need muscles to attract women, why aren't you in the gym? If you don't have money, why aren't you learning how to make it? If you can't find a great woman, why aren't you working on your social skills?
Those factors are completely within your control. Reality check: Your lack of confidence, experience and a negative attitude are the real reasons why women don't like you. (Your lack of finances, fitness and ambition are just icing on the cake.)
There is a cure, however: Open your eyes and be honest with yourself for the first time in your life. Take responsibility for everything that is or is not in your life, including your environment. If you're in a bad environment and haven't taken action to get out, it's your fault.
If you're you're surrounded by other negative underachievers, drop them and start meeting awesome people.
During the darkest times in my life, I couldn't understand why I wasn't able to meet cool people and awesome women. I ended up in two emotionally abusive relationships and had sh*tty friends, but it wasn't their fault; it was mine.
The truth is I was insecure, negative, lacked ambition and had no social skills: That's what was holding me back. Nobody else. I could have complained that the world sucked, but I decided to change my own world instead.
You can go on and cry about how the world is wrong and continue to be stuck and unhappy, or you can design your life, pick up the slack and become amazing. Great women and friends will soon follow — and maybe even some money, too.
Eddy Baller is a men's dating and personal development coach. For more ways to crush it in life and dating join his free newsletter.
This article was originally published at Elite Daily. Reprinted with permission from the author.