There are two types of people when it comes to sex: comfort people and thrill-seekers.
I once dated a guy who loved to have sex outside the bedroom. We did it on the sofa, in the closet, on the kitchen floor; we mopped my former apartment with our sex juices. I loved his adventurous spirit — until he wanted to have sex with me in an ATM vestibule.
"Don’t you know there’s a camera in there?" I said, smacking his hand away from my booty. He didn’t care. In fact, he suggested we have sex in Central Park as an alternative.
That hombre was just too much for me. When we broke up (for various other reasons), I felt relieved to have “normal” sex again — in the comfort of my own bed!
This scenario can be common in relationships. According to sexual counselor Ian Kerner, there are two types of people when it comes to sex: comfort people and thrill-seekers.
Those who want to get freaky the good ol' fashion way are all about comfort. They enjoy sexual routines, because la costumbre is what they crave! As for thrill-seekers, they want to bang and hang naked off chandeliers — and maybe jump out of a plane after orgasming.
How can you amp up your sex game while dating a thrill seeker? Here are some ways to add aventura in (or out) of the bedroom:
1. Sex outdoors:
I wasn’t down to roll around on the ground naked, because of grass stains, dog poop and ants! However, I was open to doing it in a club. It’s dark enough, the booze is flowing and most people are too busy dancing to pay attention to what a couple is doing in the far corner.
So, go to a club and wear una falda bien corta. Sit on his lap. His zipper should be unzipped, so you can pull out his erect penis and ride him to the rhythm of the salsa.
2. Bring on the sex toys:
If you’re not ready to have sex in public, spice it up for your thrill seeker by using vibrators, dildos and anal plugs during sex. It is the easiest way to bring some adventure into your bedroom. You can even use toys — specifically vibrating panties and anal beads — while out and about.
3. Experiment with wigs:
Try on a wig in any color — pink, purple, black. If your man has always been into blondes, or if you want to feel extra fiery and rock a red ‘do, wigs are a great way to add some sabor to your sexual experience. Add some role play, and your thrill seeker will be in heaven.
4. At your mama's:
There’s nothing more naughty than having sex knowing you may get caught in the act.
"But, why my mom’s place?" you ask. It’s the most thrilling, because you can do it in your old bedroom. You know, that place where you could never bring boys as a teenager, because your mom was so strict. Take that, woman!
5. Be someone else:
If you’re a fan of Modern Family, you may remember the episode where Claire (Julie Bowen) becomes Juliana. It’s a Valentine’s Day tradition for Phil and Claire, but you don’t have to wait until Cupid comes to town to assume a new identity.
Tell your man to meet you at a bar. Come in with a wig, a new tight dress and give him a fake name. Rent a hotel room, and pretend that this will be your one-and-only night together. Your thrill-seeking hombre will feel like he jumped out of a plane, and is happily flying in the wind.
This article was originally published at Latina. Reprinted with permission from the author.