Repeat after us: "A person who is nice to you but rude to the waiter is not a nice person."
Everyone deserves a fair shake, and sometimes that includes letting him have another try on a second date. But there are certain first-date behaviors that should never be overlooked and are almost always signs of bad things to come.
Here are seven of them.
1. He's rude to the wait staff.
How he treats other people—especially people he doesn't know—is a great indicator of the level of kindness and respect he'll show you down the road. After all, as author Dave Barry says, "A person who is nice to you but rude to the waiter is not a nice person."
2. He's critical about your food choice.
So what that you think french fries and a milk shake make a complete meal? On a first date, there's no place for verbal judgment that only serves to make you uncomfortable as you wait for the check.
3. He can't stop gabbing about his ex.
If she sounds so lovely you can't quite tell why they called it quits, consider it a serious red flag he's still got it bad or isn't ready to get it on with you. Likewise, if he's ragging on her, it's a sign of immaturity on top of all of that.
4. His phone is way more interesting than you.
As Stephanie Tanner would say, "How rude!" Unless your date's been interrupted by a real emergency text—not a fake bad date escape plan—the only thing he should be staring at is you.
5. He's late—without a valid excuse.
Car trouble? Totally understandable. But if he "lost track of the time," that's a clear sign he doesn't value yours.
6. His table manners? Nonexistent.
If you can't picture bringing home a guy who eats a chicken breast with his bare hands to Mom and Dad, where, exactly, could this relationship be headed?
7. He's too busy talking about himself to ask about you.
This article was originally published at Glamour. Reprinted with permission from the author.