It won't matter that your outfit's on fleek if your behavior isn't.
They say a picture is worth a thousand words. However, there are plenty more ways to bomb a first date than looking a hot mess. Your mascara could be applied just right, and your pelo and outfit may be sleek and tight, but your behavior counts, too!
Chicas, here are some things to keep in mind while on a first date. Don't do any of the following, or your new papi chulo won't ask you out again!
1. Cell Phone Addict
Let's face it: we are all addicted to our mobile devices. Whether we're riding the subway or waiting in line, we're glued to our screens. It's a hard habit to break, but we must attempt to part from our phones while on a first date. It's first date faux pas, so put it away!
2. Location, Location
A man once took me to the park on a first date. The park. I assumed we were meeting there before heading to an extravagant restaurant or bar, but that was not his plan. We strolled through Bryant Park for about 15 minutes, before I finally asked, "Are we going to dinner?" He shot me a blank look. And with that I said, "Adios, amigo!" I dashed out of that park as fast as a marathon runner, and I don't even jog.
Moral of the story, while suggesting a first date activity, think bigger and better. However, it doesn't need to be pricey. You don’t want your date to deem you a golddigger.
3. Checking In On Social Media
You know what's odd? Checking in your date on social media. Yes, you’re already friends on Facebook, but that doesn't mean you should check in at the restaurant.
When you check in your date, you are assuming that he wants his 1000+ "friends" to know that he is with you. Not only is it needy (it's like you're claiming him on social media!), but it is also presumptuous. If you check him in, especially without his permission, you will bomb on your first date before you even order your meal.
4. Ex Talk
You hate your ex. You loved your ex. Your ex hurt you so bad. No matter how you feel about your ex-boyfriend, you should never bring him up on a first date. If you do, your date will assume that you're still not over it. Even if you discuss fulano de tal (you refuse to utter his name!) while seething and foaming at the mouth, you are still showing emotion. That's not a good look.
5. You're So Bitter
Speaking of anger, negative energy is one of the biggest turn-offs on a first date. He won't want to get to know you if your shoulders are tense, your jaw is clenched and you wear a permanent scowl. Even if you are feigning happiness and positivity, he will know you are faking. Ultimately, you should be in a really good place mentally and emotionally before dating.
6. Future Baby Talk
Your biological clock is ticking, and your ovaries are screaming, "babies!" Don't tell your first date about your baby fever, unless you want to watch him sweat as he calculates his exit strategy. The only guy who wants to hear baby talk is one with an infantilism fetish. Then you can coo all night.
7. All About You
As a radio host personality and avid talker, I understand the need to talk about oneself. Still, contain yourself! Your first date wants to get to know you, but he doesn’t want to feel like you are a vapid, self-centered mujer.
So, while being wined and dined (hopefully), pay attention to how much you talk. Instead of sharing your life story after just one bite, ask about his interests, hobbies and family. The more you know about him, the easier it will be to decide if you want to see him for a second date.
This article was originally published at Latina. Reprinted with permission from the author.