Well, now we know ... and it's actually pretty simple.
YourTango conducted a "Happy, Healthy Sex In Marriage" survey with 104 of our marriage and relationship experts. In their expert opinion, attraction has less to do with romance, and more to do with appreciation.
Respondents were asked when people felt most attracted to their spouses.
A majority, with 56 percent, said it's when they feel needed and appreciated.
So, never forget to say thank you, and look for small ways to make your spouse feel needed.
There were also other interesting results. A good 20 percent said that people feel attracted to their partner when that person is happy, pleasant, and easy-going. 16 percent said it's when their loved one is confident in their skills or accomplishments.
One thing that came in dead last is probably what we would have expected to be first. Only 6 percent said they feel attracted to their spouse when he or she is acting flirty or sexy.
It looks like thanking him for fixing the sink is a whole lot sexier than kisses.
Feeling needed isn't exactly a new concept when it comes to love. People often say that men need it in order to stay invested in a relationship. It's good to know that attraction in marriage is about more than just the physical.