Drop the dud!
You're a straight woman, and you like this guy. You have fun, you have chemistry and then you have sex. At which point, he seems to disappear. But not totally.
Chances are, he's read the Pick Up Artist lit and is following it to a T. Read up on the 5 tell-tale signs that he's a PUA from our MVP commenter, Johnny:
1. Engages in “Push-Pull.”
Yes, in PU lingo that's the name of the "move:" he's keeping you off balance by pulling you in one day and pushing you away the next. It can work like a charm and get you hooked.
2. Takes you on an emotional roller coaster.
Just repeating PU theory here! Which claims that women live for this emotional up and down.
PU theory would hold that if he were just a nice guy who liked you as much as you like him, you'd be bored of him already. So, he's not that nice to you.
3. Has slotted you as a fuck buddy (if you'll forgive the crassitude).
He is following prescribed PUA protocol for keeping a woman slotted as a FB (stays distant to begin with—"once a week" is actually the recommendation—and he backs WAY off when you push for more).
This leads probably means that you're one of multiple women in his life. Guys only act this way when sex is abundant in their lives.
4. Withdraws from commitment.
With every push YOU make—with every demand for more time, more attention, etc.—you drive him further off.
5. Only engages in low investment/high reward activities with you.
He cooks for you at home, invites you for a movie at home, only hangs out with you if you're DTF (down to fuck), only texts/phones to arrange logistics—these are all standard PUA moves.
So, there it is. He might like you, but he likes his independence and his multiple partners more. You're probably not going to get more out of him than this because—abundance — he doesn't have to give you any more than this to get his needs fulfilled.
This article was originally published at Em & Lo. Reprinted with permission from the author.
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