Male Perspective: This Is How We REALLY Feel About Circumcision

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We've heard from a lot of moms on the debate. But what do the guys themselves think?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: What do you think about circumcision?

Gay Engaged Guy (Joel Derfner, author of Swish): I know one person who was circumcised as an adult, so he's the only guy I can think of who knows what it's like both ways — sort of the Tiresias of circumcision — but he's also a famous actor and I have a huge, huge crush on him, so if I tried to ask him about it I would probably die of embarrassment.

From a purely objective standpoint I suppose I'd say it’s a barbaric practice, but as a Jew I can't imagine being uncircumcised. A gay Jewish friend of mine was the sperm donor for a Jewish lesbian couple, and when the issue of circumcision came up (in the event that they had a boy) it almost ruined the whole thing — my friend wanted his son to look like him, which I think is perfectly understandable, and the couple wanted not to mutilate their child, which I also think is perfectly understandable.

They had a girl, so the point was moot, but I myself intend to avoid the whole issue by remaining blissfully childless forever.

Straight Single Guy (L.A. Chris): My friend recently asked whether he should circumcise his boy, and we found we were both passionately for it. But his wife was strongly against it (and she's Jewish, go figure).

We all did some research and found out that it's generally healthier to be circumcised, so they decided to do it. But it's a strange internal debate, because if you consider yourself anything close to a naturalist, then it's almost hard to convince yourself of such a permanent and personal alteration of our time-honored design.

Straight Married Guy (Fred): As an adult you can't really do anything about your own situation (grown men who get circumcised are nuts), so really what is there to discuss when it comes to sex? They both work great. It only really becomes an issue when you're about to have a baby boy.

"To cut, or not to cut" becomes your decision — and it's a biggie. On the one hand, no one wants their kid to be singled out and branded a weirdo in the locker room if they’re in the uncircumcised minority; on the other hand, why would you ask someone to take scissors to your baby’s penis?

Ultimately, “normal” is what you know, and so I think most fathers want their sons to be like them, which means in most cases the clipped will opt to cut and the sheathed will choose to let it be.

Our “wise guys” are a rotating group of contributors, some of whom wish to remain anonymous and some of whom like the attention. This week’s Gay Engaged Guy is Joel Derfner, author of Swish. To ask the guys your own question, click here.


This article was originally published at Em & Lo. Reprinted with permission from the author.


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