Ten (quick!) check-ins that can help you flex your happiness muscle.
Think fast: Are you happy?
The author of Better Than Perfect: 7 Strategies to Crush Your Inner Critic and Create a Life You Love and TEDxTalk presenter shares her 10 (quick!) check-ins that can help you flex your happiness muscle. Ask yourself these questions today and walk away with long-lasting, mood-boosting strategies and a new POV.
1. What do I admire in others?
What you admire in others is an indication of what you value in yourself. When you apply your values into your life, the result is greater happiness.
2. How can I move more?
Exercise reduces stress hormones. And here’s the good news: There’s no need to go to the gym for an hour a day; any type of movement is beneficial. For an even greater mood boost, exercise outdoors in the fresh air.
3. Who do I care about?
So often, we put our relationships on the back burner so we can focus on work, but spending time with people (especially happy people) can help us experience more joy.
4. What do I appreciate?
Gratitude is one of the quickest and most effective ways of boosting your happiness. Take time to identify who and what you appreciate.
5. Do I want to be right or happy?
When you interact with others, do you focus more on being right or enjoying your time together? The latter will help you be happier.
6. Am I more motivated by fear or passion?
Fear entails judgment, focusing on what’s wrong, resentment, anger, guilt and shame. Passion, on the other hand, is based on optimism, empowerment, gratitude and a deep desire to focus on what you want to create to make things even better. Try to start each day and task from a place of passion rather than fear.
7. Am I a perfectionist?
Being a perfectionist can significantly deplete your happiness. While the motivation behind your mindset is positive (to achieve excellence), perfectionism is riddled with harsh judgment for yourself and others.
8. Do I positively impact others?
When you volunteer, or even just hold the door open for someone, you feel a sense of connection and contribution. The key is not to go overboard by focusing only on other people’s needs and failing to address your own.
9. How can I incorporate more quality down time?
An important part of being happy is taking time to decompress. And this doesn’t mean you spend an hour each night on Facebook. Meditation is a great way to calm your mind as is getting quality sleep.
10. Where am I directing my focus?
So often, we are focusing on the past in a state of regret or worrying about the future, both of which can deplete our happiness levels. Try being more present. And when you do think about the past, forgive what took place and use tough experiences as learning opportunities. When thinking about the future, focus on what you want to have happen.
This article was originally published at Self. Reprinted with permission from the author.