Battling a breakup? We've all been there and it's not easy. When you're newly single and heartbroken, your head is in a daze. You can't sleep, you can't work, and you're probably acting like a complete lunatic. So before you start plotting your revenge on that "selfish, cheating jerk," as you call your ex, take a deep breath and do your best to avoid the following mistakes.
1. Don't try to remain friends.
OK, slow your roll little lady. You two are broken up, therefore your “best friend status” should now read as "single and moving on." Yes, it’s hard to hear and unfortunate, but it’s something you need to accept, and accept quickly.
Normally, I would suggest that trying to remain "friends" could be a possibility for you two in the future, but for now, the "friend card" should NOT exist. Do your best to stay away from these common mistakes: Don’t invite him to your birthday (and yes, this includes Facebook invites). Don't text him when "your song" comes on. Barf! And last but not least DO NOT call him to "catch up."
You're single now and so is he, so start acting like it!
2. Don't continue to call him.
"Leave a message after the beep." If you’ve heard this more times than you’d like to admit, I can safely say you’re getting ignored. Why? Because you’re blowing up his phone!
If your ex pops into your head every 5 minutes, this does not mean you need to act on it. For example, "Hey babe, I just saw the cutest puppy walk by...it reminded me of that one time (4 years ago) we almost bought one!” Ummm, NO girlfriend! This type of call is not necessary. In fact, it’s just pathetic.
Next time you think you’re tempted to call him, reel in the crazy and call a friend.
3. Don't try to get closure.
"I think we should break up and start seeing other people." This translates to: He wants to break up and start seeing other people. Yes, it’s that simple.
However, for some strange reason many people continue to go back and beg for a better explanation. "There has to be more to the story. He can’t just walk away like that. We have a history together." Reality check, YES he can! Once again, let us translate it for you. Your love "story" has come to an end. He’s not walking away, he’s now RUNNING away. And your “history together,” well it’s just that—history. Now that's closure.
4. Do not constantly talk about your ex.
Sound the violins! Here comes the everlasting sob story AGAIN! For the sake of your friends, family (and Facebook community), please stop! I beg you to save your heartfelt stories and sappy song lyrics for your diary. Believe me, the incessant name–dropping will get old really quick.
If I were you, I’d start thinking of another topic to obsess over before YOUR name is the one that starts getting dragged through the dirt.
5. Don't stalk him.
For your own sanity...please don’t be “that girl!” Spending your time creeping through his Facebook photos and decoding his statuses just makes you look pathetic. Take it down a few notches.
Let’s put it this way: while you're wasting your time trying to find out what his next move is, he’s ACTUALLY moving on. Remember crazy isn't cute. It’s just crazy.
While a few drinks with girlfriends may make you feel better for the night, you're sure to feel worse the next day — and not just from a hangover, but wondering why (OMG why?!) you told the bartender about the STD your ex gave you, why you kissed that guy in the parking lot and how you got home.