If you feel like you're pulling teeth with two thumbs and no anesthesia every time you try to get your guy to talk about his feelings, well, you wouldn't be alone. Plenty of men find they can't, because they're cut off from their emotions. Society still tells guys, from the time they are very little, to deny their feelings or better yet, not have them at all. Unfortunately, women are simultaneously being primed by society to believe that men should fulfill them emotionally.
So little girl and little boy grow up, get married, and become frustrated with each other. Amiright?
Sigh. We're here to help you recognize when your man is having a hard time getting in touch with his "feminine side" (see what a sexist world we live in?). Patti Henry, therapist and author of The Emotionally Unavailable Man, writes that there are various behaviors suggesting a man is emotionally shut down. Here are 16 signs your guy is emotionally unavailable.
1. Not talking.
Sure, maybe your guy loves to talk about baseball, work, or that man cave he's determined to build in the basement one day. But when it comes to subjects that require any degree of connecting with his emotional side —how your relationship is doing, how he feels about his crappy boss, his fears about how to pay for the kids' educations — he clams up. Refusing to engage in any topic that might inflame emotions ("I don't want to argue about that!") is just a way of avoiding them altogether.
Read the rest over at The Stir: 16 Signs Your Man Is Emotionally Unavailable