Here are the answers you need.
It's never going to be the right time for a man to be in a relationship. Men are not in a big rush to give up their freedom.
The only time a man wants a relationship is when he thinks he can't afford to lose you and the thought of you dating and being with another man is too much for him. You may be thinking how is that going to happen?
Here's what to say when he says he doesn't want a relationship:
1. Say, "I understand."
Then say nothing else, pause, wait and then magically because you didn't say anything else he will begin to say more and explain his reasons.
If at no point you argued with him or tried to discount and change his mind, you have accomplished step one. By saying "I understand", he will think you understand him which is a great relief to him and he will begin to relax and open up to you.
Congratulations! That was not easy.
2. Commit to not having casual sex with him.
After he thinks you understand him and you haven't tried to change him, he will want to have sex with you. When he does, tell him all the things you like and appreciate about him.
Then say the magic words, followed by "I've made a commitment to myself not to have casual sex. The next person I have sex with will be with a man who wants to build with me." Then look off into the distance.
This is where he gets the chance to be your hero because he is attracted to your virtue and confident self-love and men want to be your hero. Men marry virtue. Read my book, A Life Of Love, to find out more.
3. Say nothing more.
At this point, he may attempt to argue with you at which point, you say, "I understand." You have planted the seed and believe me, he heard you.
By letting him know what you want generally in life and not specifically with him, you give him the opportunity, with no pressure from you, to think that being in a relationship with you is his idea. Because you know that if it's not with him, it will be someone else, and he doesn't want that.
It takes a lot of patience to pull this off however it works. I suggest watching the DVD Chemistry To Commitment to learn all the details that make being in a committed relationship his idea.
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