A variety of people love to discuss their intimate affairs and especially their love and sex lives with close friends and even family. Some cannot help it to blurt out their intimacies to colleagues and at times, to strangers! Those who share a close bond with a group of valued friends would usually limit their sharing-sessions to these friends alone. It is the ones without any close friends that seek out the attention of family members or strangers and they typically cannot get enough.
Although several professional therapists recommend trusting your friends with your personal secrets, largely because they offer support, perspective, validation, and information that you could take back and utilize in your relationship, is a good thing, it is not necessary to let it all out. Being selective with what you share with friends or trusted people is crucial. If you have to talk to someone about your personal issues and love life, choose people without any agendas of their own and make sure you can trust them.
What follows hereafter are certain frequent topics that come up in discussions between friends, male and female, which include the pros and cons of talking about them with these individuals:
1. Wondering if your partner is “The One”
In most cases, it is women that cannot resist the temptation to run this topic by their circle of friends, but some men too. Certain professionals say it is a good idea, especially when you find yourself close to full commitment in the relationship. The spillover effects, according to these professionals, could be great for both you and your partner. It could strengthen your friendship within the relationship.
On the other hand, if you choose to discuss serious matters of this nature with individuals that cannot be trusted or people with an agenda of their own, you could end up with a more complicated situation. Their comments and input could confuse you and distort the truth regarding your other half, for example.
2. Your remarkable sex life
This is a favorite topic for many, which boosts the ego like nothing else! Telling your friends about your remarkable sex life is something that men and women cannot resist. The positive side to this is that you often bring the good feeling it gives you to share these intimate details back to the bedroom, which benefits your relationship. Avoid being arrogant about your sex life and making your friends feel bad, and do not allow them to comment too much. It is imperative to ensure that your partner has no problem with you talking to friends about your sex life.
3. You are attracted to another person while married