Pregnancy Dilemma: What To Do When He Wants Sex But You Feel Fat

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Find out how to get pass this kind of insecurity.

An Essence reader writes in to talk about how her pregnancy turns her husband on and her off. Find out what Abiola Abrams advises her to do.

Dear Abiola,

I am five and a half months pregnant with my first child and I don’t want to have sex. My husband seems to find me sexier than ever but I feel fat, unattractive, and just not into it. I already didn’t like my body and now this pregnancy weight gain just made it worse. It also just doesn’t seem safe for the baby. I was kind of hoping that the doctor would give me a medical reason for us not to have sex but unfortunately my doc says we have a green light and it’s all systems go.

I don't want my husband's eye to start wandering so I've been forcing myself to have sex with him but then this leaves me feeling depressed for the whole week. Should I just force myself and go along with the program for the next four months until our daughter is born?

Signed,

Fat Mommy-to-Be

Find out what Abiola's advice is here: Intimacy Intervention: 'My Pregnancy Turns Him On and Me Off!'

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