A new study says 71% of women believe they're the decider on whether more will come from a date.
Who run the world? Girls… because, of course. Not only do we run the world, but we rule everything else in it, especially relationships. If you're a woman reading this, you already knew that. If you're a dude reading this, you might be somewhat confused and are scratching your head while staring at the computer screen dumfounded, but let's break it down for you, because the truth will set you free.
A recent study by EliteSingles has found that when it comes to the dating world, 71 percent of women believe they're the decider when it comes to how things will end or if another date is even possible. Not only that, but women are far more confident about the first impression they make upon men during an initial date. That's right: we know you're putty in our hands! We’re so damn convinced of this ability to woo with our charms that, of those surveyed, 82 percent of ladies felt they could waltz into a date and win over whomever happens to be lucky enough to be out with them … or in other words, in the presence of greatness.
Men, on the other hand, don't have such faith in their ability to let their awesomeness shine. Only 70 percent of dudes think they have the power to dazzle during a first meeting, and even more tragically, a measly 46 percent think they have any say at all in the outcome of the first date or the potential for others.
Here are the reasons why this tends to be the case.
1. Women have the upper hand.
It's true, because science says so. When you walk into a dating scenario where the women has been pursued, then asked out by the gentlemen suitor, she's already 10 steps ahead of the man, because she knows, without a doubt, that he desires her. That situation immediately puts the ball in the lady's court.
2. Men are kinda clueless.
As the study's director, Dr. Wiebke Neberich explains, the fact that men "tend to overestimate a woman's interest, they experience comparatively many more rejections." Yikes. This, of course, leads to insecurities that are not very easy to get over anytime soon. Nothing hurts more than rejection, so it makes sense that a man who has been burned would proceed with absolute caution and dwindling self-esteem.
3. Women know how to work it.
Studies have proven that women truly know how to seduce. We know with just a drop in our voice, or what color to wear, or even how perfectly we flip our hair, we can control the matter at hand. It's just in our DNA. We're completely aware of how to make ourselves irrestible, and we do so in situations for which it's called.
4. Women actually get to be picky.
We're a wanted creature! I mean, look at us! Seriously, look at us! According to Neberich, "Women can be picky when choosing a partner, for a number of biological and sociological reasons … could be a key explanation for the greater self-confidence we see among women in the study." Even in cities like New York, where there are far more men than women, women still get to be picky, because we’re a luscious fruit that men want to pluck from a tree and devour!
5. Women know what they want quicker than men.
Studies have shown that almost half of all women know within the first 10 minutes of a date if the person their out with is worthy of giving further attention. Having that type of leverage in our pocket is pretty much like owning 100 bricks of gold. Basically, it's not even fair how much leverage we have on a first date.
As a woman, I find much joy in the fact that my fellow ladies are so confident in their dating skills. Not because of some sort of gender competition, but because society puts a lot of pressures and unrealistic standards on us, so it’s nice to see an exuberant confidence in us.
However, this does force me to be saddened by the insecurity on the part of the men out there on the dating scene. I mean, yes, women do run the world (Beyoncé said so), but it doesn't mean you can't try to give us a run for our money in the confidence department. Women do love a challenge, after all.