Although everyone wants to marry the right person for him/her, making the right choice is easier said than done. This article is written to enlighten you on how to choose the right partner.
Making a right choice of whom to marry is based on your needs, wants, values and goals in life. Therefore, you need to examine and compare these things with that of your partner’s. It starts with you being ready for a real relationship. You have to know who you are and where you are going in life. This will enable you to look for the right partner who will be suitable for you. For instance, if you have a dream to become the president of your country some day and your partner can’t see himself/herself marrying one, you will have to look for someone else.
In order for you to conduct a good assessment, you need to look at the four areas mentioned above, i.e Needs, wants, values and goals. Your needs are what you consider to be essential for your future. For instance, what do you need a woman or a man for? Do you want to have a home to call your own, children to bear your name, etc. You must understand your need for marriage.
Wants are similar to your needs, but you can compromise it. What do you want out of life? A booming career, high social status, high financial status, etc.
Values are what you believe in. It is the engine that drives your goals and it is the very core of what is dearest to you. For instance, do you love God and want to marry someone who does same? Must your partner be highly intelligent or educated? Do you believe in saving and investment even to the detriment of your lifestyle? Do you want to have children? Do you have expectations for your partner’s behavior towards you and your children in the future?
Goals goes along with your values. Goals include the choice of career, level of income, investments, lifestyle, home-ownership, family, etc.
Once you are able to determine your needs, wants, values and goals in life, it will be easy for you to know what you are looking for in a partner. You can determine it by discussing and sharing your dreams, passions, hopes and future plans with your partner. The reason that many couples found themselves in troubled marriages is because they refused to talk about the four essential things mentioned above. They assume they knew one another so well that they must be right for one another.
You need to use your heart and your head when choosing a life partner. You also need God’s divine assistance. God has promised to direct your steps in all affairs of life. Marriage is a very important aspect of life that you cannot just make decisions on your own. It is a road that is unpredictable, full of twists and turns. Ensure that the person you intend to marry will be there for you as an individual and will be ready to make compromises in order to have a successful and lasting marriage.
About the author: Hephzibah Asaolu is a Relationship Consultant committed to helping singles make a better choice of marriage partner. She also provides solutions to numerous relationship challenges. You can connect with her on her blog - www.relationshipmatters101.com or download her free e-book on "40 Reasons Why your Relationship is not Working and how to fix it" - http://relationshipmatters101.com/free-e-books/.