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Will Keeping Secrets Ruin Your Marriage?


Are all secrets created equally? Listen as the Experts discuss & disagree about secrets in marriage.

We all have secrets. “Without secrets, we’d be as a society kind of in trouble,” explains Cheryl Gerson, couples counselor and psychotherapist. Some are innocent, some juicy – but at what point, if any, can secrets ruin your marriage?

Senior VP of Experts Melanie Gorman asks YourTango Experts Sue Butler, Andre Moore, Cheryl Gerson and Christopher Smith to discuss the types of secrets we keep and why we keep them.

“Secrets are tough. And they’re a lose/lose,” says Moore. Both members of a relationship are hurt by hidden thoughts and feelings, so it’s best to get together with your partner and communicate.

Want to learn more? Check out the video above.


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