Jenai Lane, founder of Spirit Coach Training, and author of Spirit Led Instead, trains people and coaches to live from their soul instead of ego. How does she do this? By teaching and training them the tools included in her new book that helps connect a person to their innate wisdom. Another term for this kind of wisdom is called intuition or gut sense, which is often, always right and steers us to our best possible outcome if listened to.
“The tools included in Spirit-Led Instead really connect us to our spirit. Alot of times we create relationships without knowing who we really are as spirit, as our true authentic self, and then a year goes by and we wonder why it’s not working out,” said Lane. “Our spirit is where our innate inner wisdom resides. When we connect to others on that level that is when we attract a soulmate. A soulmate is someone who resonates from the foundation of our soul. We can’t do this without going within and recognize that we are spirit. Our soul is our true nature, so we have to go within, or else we don’t attract a loving relationship from that authentic place.”
Lane explains that many people don’t take the time to find out who they really are as spirit.
“What really makes our heart sing? What am I here to contribute?. Once we answer those questions then we can create those relationships that reflect from who we are,” continues Lane. “Often people attract a partner from ego and a façade. So they attract those who don’t really match them. We must be vulnerable to be able to attract the person that truly resonates with who we truly are.”
Lane herself struggled with relationships and used to try to attract a relationship based on a list she wrote of her ideal partner. Until she realized that she had to make a commitment to go within she couldn’t resonate to the world with whom she really was.
“It took a year after making a firm commitment to my spiritual growth and path to live a soul-based versus ego-driven life. Then I met my true love who is now my husband,” recalls Lane. “He wasn’t someone who met any of the things that was on my ego’s list but he matched my spirit and it was very fulfilling. We need instead to go within and let spirit guide us to what we really want”
According to Lane, when we show the world our false self it is because we are trying to look good or be someone we are not. However, when we are willing to show the world our real self that is when we can attract our true love. For Lane’s clients their match to a soulmate only came when they were being their real self.
“Eventually a partner shows up who is an energetic match to who you really are versus an ego identity,” continues Lane. “Our mind thinks we know what we want. It is a mental list. Many people do this and that is the problem. On my list I wanted someone who was spiritual and I attracted men who were. What I really wanted was someone willing to be on a spiritual path and grow for the rest of their life. I didn’t really know that until I went within and deeply looked at the important things.”