All couples face difficult marital problems that seem devastating when you first face them, but if you keep things in perspective and work through these issues slowly and methodically then your marriage can actually be strengthened by them. As I have shared before on this blog, in my 30 plus years of marriage, my wife and I have dealt with a lot of struggles throughout our marriage, but by God's grace our relationship has always thrived.
When two people spend so much time with their spouse there will be moments, if not days, of craziness where you are at deep odds with one another. The most important thing to remember is to not let these moments of marital madness ruin what is otherwise a healthy and loving relationship with your mate. Just remember....you are not alone.
There are no perfect marriages, in fact, most marriages have the exact same struggles. Below is a list of marital problems that many couples encounter even in a healthy marriage, but find a way to work through and get past.
Boredom in Your Relationship
Like many other things in life, you can get very bored with your mate and your relationship if you don't find meaningful ways to keep it fresh and exciting. Many couples who experience marital problems will indicate some form of boredom with their mate. When you spend almost every single day together, you are going to find boredom a challenge unless you come up with a plan as a couple to do different things to keep your relationship fresh. You may want to try new hobbies together; things that the two of you can enjoy together. For example, my wife and I began hiking together just a few years ago. It provides us a nice form of exercise, but it also has opened up new opportunities to talk with one another and share our thoughts and plans for the future. There are many other things you can do to beat the boredom in your marriage, including traveling to new places, eating at different restaurants and other similar things, but there is one thing that you can do to keep your marriage exciting and fun that every couple agrees with completely. If you want to keep boredom and marital problems away, then get creative in the bedroom. Try new positions, new locations, new techniques, new toys or whatever you and your spouse both agree on and are comfortable with so things stay passionate and hot. This is one of the best cures for boredom in any marriage.
The In-Laws and Family
Some of the most challenging marital problems center around family issues. We all have a family member or two who just seems to create havoc no matter the circumstances. It could be one or both of your mothers who just can't keep out of your personal matters. It could be a sibling that is always calling or showing up at the most inopportune times. While you know and accept the quirkiness of your family members, your mate may find it difficult to deal with their quirks, particularly during stressful times. This is when you both have be understanding to one another and try to intervene with the family member who is creating the problem. The main thing that both of you need to do is be respectful of each other's family, even the members who create problems and stress for you in your marriage.