Resistance to love is often a form of protection. When it's a strong form of resistance, what kind of NLP strategies can be used to dismantle resistance?
If someone really wants a loving relationship and they can’t find it or keep picking the wrong guys; then I automatically know there is some form of resistance. This sort of resistance is not usually conscious. But the subconscious has an objection to having what the more conscious part of our brain desires and the subconscious is the one running the show when it comes to this. For example, someone might really desire a close loving relationship, but when I work with their neurology about it , we might discover that deep down they are afraid of having that kind of close relationship because they fear they might lose something of value. Usually those fears are not consciously known. Once we discover the objection, then there are certain techniques used to negotiate with that part that objects.
Many Law of Attraction coaches say that one just has to believe and it will happen. Why is it just so hard to simply change a belief even if it is the best thing to do?
It is difficult to change our beliefs by just saying we will. The reptilian brain has the limiting beliefs stored as a way to survive and it isn’t too keen on giving it up because there is an illusion that those beliefs are necessary for survival. Working with a skilled transformational NLP Practitioner is a good way to work with the reptilian brain and update it. Most of the time we are still trying to survive childhood, but the reptilian brain doesn’t realize that you are no longer a child.
How does F.L.I.R.T in the group format differ from the online home study option?
I created the “home study’ version of the live F.L.I.R.T. Course for my clients who live outside of the San Francisco Bay Area. The content is exactly the same and it consists of the live recordings of the class and a supplemental workbook. The live version offers a close community of women supporting each other through the course as well as in person individual coaching sessions that take place before each class. The home study version still has transformational benefits, but is just missing that “in person” feeling.
On average, how many sessions of NLP does it take to resolve a belief that is sabotaging to love?