How to let love in by opening the inner door of your mind to lasting romance.
Cinthia Dennis is one of the rare group of love coaches worth investing the time and money in if you live in the San Francisco Bay Area. Luckily for non-locals she also guides individuals to true love via Skype in her NLP coaching practice. Dennis is the creator of the F.L.I.R.T. Course, an NLP based program designed to dissolve resistence to lasting love. Transforming patterns that sabotage love requires the cooperation of your subconscious mind. Such a task is easier said than done. Most love coaches work on the conscious mind but that is the tip of the iceberg. For deep changework an excavation of the inner workings of a person's cognition is required. Dennis knows this and also knows how to address the cognitive restructuring needed to open one's heart and mind to the flow of love that is really always all around us. Her genuine intention is to help others let lasting love in for a romance of a lifetime through her one of a kind F.L.I.R.T. Course. Dennis dishes on the details below on what participants learn in her innovative and dynamic coaching program.
Describe how NLP provides a protocol to do a shift pattern or core belief change that allows love in the F.L.I.R.T. Course ( A women’s course for Dating and Relationship Mastery).
Many of my clients who do not have the love that they want in their lives, have deeper beliefs about themselves or relationships that are blocking them from finding their partner. They might have un-conscious beliefs about their worthiness or their own value. Or they have had role models of relationships from childhood that have been damaging. With the NLP (Neuro Re-patterning) work that I do with the participants of the F.L.I.R.T. Course, I am finding out HOW their brain is holding those beliefs, WHERE and HOW they started (usually in childhood) and once we find that out, there are many techniques that deep transformational NLP uses to unwire and rewire the brain around the negative experiences of the past. Once the foundation of where these limiting beliefs began is dismantled, then more positive affirming beliefs are put in place. Our beliefs about ourself and the world are the number one thing that can block us or move us forward. We can never have any experience in life that doesn't match up to what we believe. For instance, if deep down you don’t believe you are lovable, then you will not find a man that will love you. It is a vicious circle, until you break the pattern.
Explain the NLP timeline technique and how it is applied to creating a supportive to love pattern from a destructive to love habit?
I don’t use the timeline technique. What I do use is more acurate and more powerful then surface NLP techniques, It is a technique called re-imprinting which is a way to reframe and revise a person’s childhood and their negative experiences, so it almost erases them in a sense. This is helpful to do around those limiting beliefs about oneself that might be blocking a person form having a good relationship
Resistance to love is often a form of protection. When it's a strong form of resistance, what kind of NLP strategies can be used to dismantle resistance?
If someone really wants a loving relationship and they can’t find it or keep picking the wrong guys; then I automatically know there is some form of resistance. This sort of resistance is not usually conscious. But the subconscious has an objection to having what the more conscious part of our brain desires and the subconscious is the one running the show when it comes to this. For example, someone might really desire a close loving relationship, but when I work with their neurology about it , we might discover that deep down they are afraid of having that kind of close relationship because they fear they might lose something of value. Usually those fears are not consciously known. Once we discover the objection, then there are certain techniques used to negotiate with that part that objects.
Many Law of Attraction coaches say that one just has to believe and it will happen. Why is it just so hard to simply change a belief even if it is the best thing to do?
It is difficult to change our beliefs by just saying we will. The reptilian brain has the limiting beliefs stored as a way to survive and it isn’t too keen on giving it up because there is an illusion that those beliefs are necessary for survival. Working with a skilled transformational NLP Practitioner is a good way to work with the reptilian brain and update it. Most of the time we are still trying to survive childhood, but the reptilian brain doesn’t realize that you are no longer a child.
How does F.L.I.R.T in the group format differ from the online home study option?
I created the “home study’ version of the live F.L.I.R.T. Course for my clients who live outside of the San Francisco Bay Area. The content is exactly the same and it consists of the live recordings of the class and a supplemental workbook. The live version offers a close community of women supporting each other through the course as well as in person individual coaching sessions that take place before each class. The home study version still has transformational benefits, but is just missing that “in person” feeling.
On average, how many sessions of NLP does it take to resolve a belief that is sabotaging to love?
Because everyone’s lives and experiences are different, it is difficult to say for sure. Every “one on one” session will shift things. Some of our deeper patterns need to be peeled off in layers. I only see my one on one clients once a month, because the work goes so deep that the brain needs some time to integrate what we have updated. What I have noticed throughout the many years that I have been doing this work, is that people have a huge change in the way they are being in the world and being with themselves and who they are calling into their life after about 6 one on one sessions. However, the one on one work is different from the F.L.I.R.T. Course. The F.L.I.R.T. Course combines NLP belief work with actual skills around dating and relationships.
The next F.L.I.R.T. Course in San Francisco begins February 25, 2014. To learn more about Cinthia Dennis and F.L.I.R.T., click here. Her online DailyOM Course 'Become A Man Magnet' is available now online, to register, click enroll.