After swearing against it for years, The Single Woman breaks down and gives online dating a go.
[Editor's note: The Single Woman's Mandy Hale is well known for her sassy straight talk when it comes to love and relationships. On the heels of releasing Life, Love, And A Dash Of Sass, Mandy is now diving into online dating ... and sharing the results right here with you.]
Well, friends … you might want to take a seat for this one.
I have an announcement that might surprise you a little.
After years of saying swearing I'd never … years of fierce resistance to the very idea … years of listing for all of my friends and family all the many, many reasons why I would NEVER try it …
I have decided to venture into the Land of Online Dating!
Here's the thing. I've held onto a lot of preconceived notions about online dating for a VERY long time, and the longer I cling to my stubborn mindsets, the more archaic they become. I mean, c'mon! I've met two guys on Twitter (who both turned out to be horrible, each in their own unique way), a couple of guys on Facebook, and I even met my last serious boyfriend on MySpace back in the day (of course, he turned out to be horrible, too … but he DID inspire The Single Woman … and that's not just a silver lining … it's a PLATINUM lining!) But all these men turned out to be horrible … that's what you're thinking, right? Well, my rebuttal to that would be this: Yes, they did. However, I have made several wonderful, awesome friends through social networks AND my entire life, destiny, and career path changed because of Twitter (my publisher "discovered" me by browsing Kim Kardashian's page to see who she was following, and yes, at that time, she was following me. She has since stopped. I blame Kanye. LOL!) So, if the interwebs could bring me great friends, an amazing new career, and even make numerous dreams of mine come true … then who's to say it can't help me find love?
Because my faith is at the center of everything I do, and because I can't imagine ever marrying a man or being in a long-term relationship with a man who doesn't share my faith values (I've been down that Relationship Dead End and ain't going back there EVER AGAIN) … when Christian Mingle approached me several months ago about partnering with them to brainstorm fun ways to cross-promote, I knew the time was NOW to overcome my fears and doubts and misgivings about online dating and just go for it. And believe me, there have been lots of fears and doubts and misgivings, not about Christian Mingle (I actually know a couple that met and married via Christian Mingle!), but about the whole experience of online dating. It terrifies me. In fact, I haven't yet even completed my profile or put up a picture or anything, because once I do that, it's REAL. That said, the men browsing my page probably think I have THE sketchiest profile in the history of online dating profiles since I'm, at this point, nothing but a screen name, an empty profile, and no picture. It occurred to me, though, that if I'm terrified about online dating, maybe some of you are, too … and if I can help make that process a little less scary for you, and maybe even make it a fun and funny and colorful adventure for ALL of us … then I'd consider that a job well done. KEEP READING!
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