Tattoos, underwear, and shoes aside, let's talk about sex. More specifically, let's talk about sex on the first date. Who's doing it? Who isn't? And how do we feel about those who are doing it, as well as ourselves when we put out on date numero uno?
Although some people may scowl at the thought of it, a decent amount of people are having sex on the first date. Sorry, judgy-wudgy bears, but it's true. It's 2013, over 40 years since the beginning of the sexual revolution, so if it feels right, then go with it.
For the last few weeks of "What Women Really Think …" we haven't hit up the sex topic, but this week, gentlemen, since you already had your say on the subject, we're here to tell you what ladies think of you and themselves when they give it up on the first date.
Sometimes we want to be in control:
"I'm always hesitant to have sex on the first date if a guy is really pushing for it. I want to be the one who decides if we're going to have sex, and not let the guy feel like he won. I want to be the decider," says Ashley, 29.
"I've never met a guy who hasn't tried to have sex on the first date. It's laughable how easy it is," says Amy, 27.
But sometimes we can have reservations, because of past experiences:
"I naturally assume every guy who wants to f*ck on the first date has an STD or a shady past. Maybe a serial killer? But that's based on past mistakes,"
says Erin, 31.
Indulge, and judgers be damned!
"Go for it! Be free you little winged sex monkeys!" says Jennifer, 27.
"I think that you're damned if you do, you're damned if you don't. So you might as well enjoy your life and just go with the flow... if he likes you already, he'll still want to see you again. If he doesn't call you because you didn't hold yourself back from something you wanted to do, then he's a judgy jerk who you probably shouldn't want to spend your life with anyways," says Sandra, 29.
"If it feels right and we're both into it then sure, why not? I slept with my ex on the first date (we were young and he gave me a line about blue balls), and we were together five years. But if I heard the blue balls line now, I'd smack the dude," says Jennie, 33.
Why women might steer clear of sex on the first date:
"If I actually really dig the dude, I try to wait just cause I get emotionally attached when I come into contact with peen," says Amelia, 33.
"I do it then feel sh*tty about it. Only because dudes have conditioned me that way. Thanks for calling me back, you assholes," says Kate, 31.
But, in the end, safety first. Always.:
"Eh, as long as everyone is safe and smart, with your expectations/emotions/grasp on reality in check (stuff everybody should be doing anyway), why not?," says Melissa, 25.
"I say as long as you both protect your heart, along with your standard safe-sex practices, it's all good," says Lisa, 34.
Overall, women seem to be down with having sex on the first date, and with men wanting to have sex on the first date. Perhaps, having sex on the third date is now a thing of the past. I guess a lot of us can agree that maybe it's a good idea to take the car for a test drive before a second date. Why waste our time on a broken-down clunker that could crap out at the next stop light?
What do you think about sex on the first date? Tell us in the comments below.
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