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Avoid These Common Lovemaking Mistakes


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Protect your precious connection with your partner through lots of new lovemaking ideas.

Do you want to avoid the most common lovemaking mistakes that couples make? If so, then Oprah Winfrey Show love expert, Michael Webb, the author of 500 Lovemaking Tips& Secrets, a book full of ways for you and your spouse spice up your lovemaking. has some great advice for adding more passion, pleasure and intimacy to your sex life.

Michael Webb says that to make this happen you need to avoid the seven mistakes that most married couples make in their love life. Webb points out in his book that most couples who try to spice up their lovemaking, often make their sex life less satisfying and fulfilling because they are not sure about what is acceptable and what is unacceptable in most sexual relationships.

Whether you are newlyweds or a couple has been together for many years, many couples make the same mistakes over and over again, thinking they are improving their love lives, but, in fact, they are actually hindering it. So we will look at these common lovemaking mistakes and how to correct them. Here are the most common lovemaking mistakes:

MISTAKE #1: Feeling scared or embarrassed to talk about trying new things.

Many times one or both partners has had ideas to spice up their love life, but were afraid to talk to their partner about them. They are afraid their spouse may think they are too crazy or kinky. Webb says that believe it or not, in 90% of cases, your partner would LOVE to try something new, too, but they're just as uncomfortable or embarrassed about bringing it up as you are. So don't make this lovemaking mistake and miss the opportunity to dramatically improve your sex life.

Just so we are clear about this, we are not necessarily talking about introducing whips, chains or a third person into the bedroom. Those things might be pushing the boundaries a little too far for your partner. There are literally hundreds of ideas that Michael Webb talks about in his book to bring variety and excitement to your sex life that aren't crude or dangerous and that most partners will find not only acceptable, but desirable in their relationship.

MISTAKE #2: Trying to convince the partner to make love

If your spouse is tired from a hectic day at work or taking care of the kids and they are not in the mood for sex, trying to convince or persuade them to have sex almost NEVER works. So don't make this common lovemaking mistake. On the other hand, when your mate is sexually aroused in positive natural way through tender words or kisses, their body releases the chemical "adrenaline" into the bloodstream. Adrenaline is what gives you the energy to make love. So here's Michael Webb's advice on how to arouse your spouse them the right way; even if they're tired. Note that it is different for women and men. Ladies: If you want to get your husband in the mood quickly, then wake him up in the morning by manually stroking him or performing oral sex on him. In the morning hours, a man's testosterone levels are at their highest. For even better results in turning on your man at any time, wear something really sexy or nothing at all. Men are very visual and he will like what he sees. Men: Deep passionate kisses are one of the biggest turn-ons for women. A woman melts when you look deep in her eyes and gently touch her face while kissing her. It can really increase her sexual arousal and things will heat up real fast. And give some attention to her neck­­ by lightly kissing and rubbing it; this drives most women wild. But remember you need to be slow and gentle. Spend quality time building up her arousal with your sensual kisses.

MISTAKE #3: Neglecting foreplay to enjoy intercourse sooner

Webb says that married couples (especially men) tend to make this lovemaking mistake far too often. They neglect foreplay so they can begin to enjoy intercourse sooner, but what they don't realize is that foreplay is actually said to intensify orgasms. So do it right. Kiss, caress and touch longer, you can make your lovemaking even more satisfying. Go slow and get your partner aroused completely. Take your time. If you want to make it even better, tease your partner in a playful way. If you find something that they really enjoy, stop doing it, move back, and then do it again later.The more you pull back and push forward, the more they'll want it. And the more intense their experience will be. There are many games you can play to heighten this anticipation, too.

MISTAKE #4: Using toys or porn to make your lovemaking better

Men commonly make this lovemaking mistake thinking that a video or plastic vibrating object will quickly turn things around. Sorry guys, but that usually won't do much for her. Michael Webb points out in his book that while toys can certainly have their place in your lovemaking repertoire, relying on them can be extremely dangerous. These outside sources of pleasure can quickly make lovemaking even less fulfilling. He says couples need to first fully discover how to please all their spouses' body parts before introducing other elements. Use them as a spice, not the main course.

MISTAKE #5: Trying to make the woman orgasm ONLY from intercourse

Every man wants to be able to bring their wife to a very satisfying orgasm through intercourse, but men, what you need to understand is that a large number of women can't achieve orgasm through normal lovemaking. When a man understands this then it takes the pressure off them completely. He doesn't get upset when their women don’t reach orgasm. Instead, men should master the art of satisfying their wife through oral sex and gentle touching.

MISTAKE #6: Trying to “finish” at the same time

Webb says that simultaneous orgasms are very rare and quite overrated. He recommends that instead of aiming for one orgasm that you share together, that the man should focus completely on the woman’s needs first. His advice to men is simple; hold off from the positions you find most enjoyable and instead make love in ways that are most pleasurable for your lady, until she is completely satisfied. That way you have a much greater chance of both climaxing.

MISTAKE #7: Sticking to a “set routine” too often

This one of the biggest lovemaking mistakes that most married couples make. You know the "set routine" he is talking about. You take your clothes off, insert part A into part B, and, within a few minutes, the routine is over. If this sounds familiar to you then you may have some work to do to improve your love life. It doesn't matter how fantastic your lovemaking is now, if you keep the same routine over and over again, there’s no denying that it will become boring at some point. According to Webb, the reason is because lovemaking in its basic act is always the same. But the danger is letting it get “too routine,” which can begin to affect your relationship. The BEST WAY to protect your love life and precious connection with your partner is to have lots of new lovemaking ideas ready at your disposal and to avoid these seven lovemaking mistakes. That's the secret.

In fact, when you have an abundance of NEW tips and techniques ready, you’ll enjoy more hot, steamy and passionate lovemaking, discover new found enthusiasm to make love and even make love more often. Michael Webb's book, 500 Lovemaking Tips & Secrets, is good resource for keeping your love life hot, sexy and fun. You might want to check it out.

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