Just a few weeks before I met my husband, I had told a girlfriend “My life is so amazing, that any man I meet better make it better or at least keep it amazing”. At that point I had come to a place of really loving myself and my life and it helped me choose a healthy partner to share that experience WITH me instead of being the one to make my life amazing. Most women who are single and don’t want to be, go at it in the opposite way. They are looking for a partner so they can be happy and have their lives feel complete. When that is the case, most likely they will not pick a good partner for themselves.
What key lessons do you share in your workshops?
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The F.L.I.R.T. Course is based on the three pillars of relationship success.
1. Preparing yourself for love.
- In this part we do a lot of mental, emotional, and physical clean up so that we are in a more positive space.
2. Beliefs and Confidence.
-This is the part where we really address those inner beliefs that might be keeping us stuck and miserable in painful relationships or continually single.
3. Dating skills 101.
-In this section we learn simple dating skills. We learn how men think and what they are looking for in a relationship. We also practice being vulnerable and doing the “feminine dance” of dating and relationships.
Do you have any success stories from those who have taken your workshop?
The nice thing about taking the F.L.I.R.T. course is that all new students and alumni get to stay connected and share wisdom, set backs and resources with each other. They become members for a lifetime.
So I quite often hear of their successes, whether it is not chasing men anymore and letting the man take some initiative. Or that they have finally met someone that is of quality and some have even gotten married within a year of taking the course.
Most of all, what I see in all of the women, is a stronger sense of valuing themselves. This is the biggest thing that changes alot of their behavior. The majority of them can no longer allow unhealthy men into their lives and they start to be able to receive attention and love fully. The women who go through this course will change the way they “do” relationships forever.
* The next “in person” F.L.I.R.T. Course will be held in Feb. 2014.
An audio version for those out of the San Francisco Bay Area is also available.
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