Cinthia Dennis is an NLP practitioner in San Francisco and teaches the DailyOM course “Become a Man Magnet”. She also teaches the F.L.I.R.T. Course for women in the Bay Area using NLP to align their beliefs with their love intentions. Her expertise has not only helped her happy clients find true love but also herself. In August 2013 Cinthia married the love of her life and credits the profound transformation that NLP provided her with creating the relationship of her dreams. Since beliefs are the foundation behind how we design the life we have, Cinthia explains in the following interview how to change beliefs that prevent us from bringing our desires to life.
How does NLP play a role in your dating and flirting workshops?
The F.L.I.R.T. Course for women is a 7 week course for mastering dating and relationships. F.L.I.R.T. is an acronym that stands for Fun, Loving, Interesting , Time. In the course we teach a small lesson on flirting but mainly the course is geared towards working on your inner self esteem, confidence and core beliefs about yourself. This is where the Nuero Re-patterning (NLP) comes in. We spend a considerable amount of time in the course uncovering and shifting the hidden beliefs that the participants have about men, love, relationships and themselves.
When you don’t really believe in yourself or feel unlovable or good enough, it makes it very difficult to choose partners that are good for you or have healthy, happy relationships. This is why the majority of the women that come to me for help have had the experience of picking men that either treat them badly or leave them feeling unloved in some way. Often they can’t find anyone and stay single even though they desperately want to find a partner or their deeper beliefs wont let them be attracted to “the good guys”.
Based on your expertise, what are the main causes of being single?
There could be a number of things going on for people when they are single and don’t want to be. The main one is that their experience of being single is matching up to a deeper belief that they have based in childhood. It could be a belief that “I am not good enough” or “I am alone in the world” or “I don’t deserve love”. Those beliefs will always mirror our experiences. Or they might subconsciously have an objection to being in a relationship. Most often, the person is not aware that they have an objection; they are mostly aware of how much pain they are in about not getting what they want.
For instance, when working with my clients, we might discover a subconscious objection that if they are in a relationship they might lose their freedom. Or even deeper, that they might be destroyed. Our earlier imprints about love and relationship come from the first people that we were in relationship with, our parens. These earlier imprints stick throughout our life and get replayed over and over again and are most prevalent in our intimate relationships.