A release is a release is a release, most men would say. As long as they're enjoying their time at play, and as long as they're not harming the skin of the Johnson in the process, every climb to the summit is really the same, in terms of overall male organ health and mental health benefits, right? Experts disagree. In fact, modern research suggests that partnered intimacy has benefits that solo activities just can't match.
Partnered intimacy is more than mere thrusting and heaving. Typically, unless money has been exchanged, the two participants spend at least a little time hugging, kissing and murmuring to one another. Even when the intimacy is perfunctory and quick, the partners share the heat of their skin.
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The human brain is designed to respond to this kind of physical closeness. Usually, when it takes place, the brain releases chemicals that tell the person that safety is at hand and that it's time to relax. These little chemical signals can help a person to feel safe and secure, and typically, they're associated with a reduction in blood pressure and heart rate. These chemicals also play a role in anxiety reduction.
Most self-pleasuring sessions don't involve contact with the skin of another person. The touch is still present, and the pleasure might still be in play, but there's no set of eyes to gaze into, no mouth to murmur sweet nothings and no skin to give off heat. As a result, there may be no soothing chemicals released by the brain. The physical part works, but the mental part might be missing.
In addition, much of the movement used in a typical self-pleasuring session isn't really healthy for the male organ. Even the words used to describe a self-pleasuring session sound painful:
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While partnered intimacy can sometimes be zesty and full of all sorts of grunts and moans, it can also be a soft and moving experience that takes a longer time to complete. The release that comes at the end of a session like this tends to be more intense, as the brain has a longer time to anticipate the reward and the body has vital moments needed in order to prepare. But a soft and soothing session can also just be better for the health of the male organ, as it's not likely to end in either injury or chafing. The intimacy might be more intense, and it might also be healthier.
While partnered intimacy and the releases it can bring can be a little better for a man's physical and mental health, this kind of activity isn't always possible. Partners can sometimes be physically separated due to the demands of work or school, and they can be emotionally separated due to familial demands or other pressures. Sometimes, too, people just don't feel the urge to get busy with their partners, and they prefer the idea of going it alone for a time.