Making love is a very important part of any healthy and happy marriage. Married couples often wonder how their sex life stacks up against other couple's sex life. In particular, men always seem to want to have sex more often than their wives, so wives are curious about comparing their personal experiences with others.
While you can always compare notes with your friends who are willing to share with you about their sex life, you can do a self-assessment to determine if you have a "normal" healthy and happy sex life.
There are some basic things that you can look at to determine the true health of your sexual relationship. The first thing you must understand is that when making love it is not a competition between you and your spouse or with other couples. The only thing that matters is that you and your spouse are satisfied with each other and what you do in the bedroom or, for that matter, in any other room in the house.
Are you receiving the ultimate level of satisfaction? We will help you explore this more with a few simple questions you need to answer.
Overall, do you think you have happy, fulfilling marriage?
Making love is only a small part of any healthy marriage. Couples who have a healthy sexual relationship have good lines of communication between themselves. They are able to let their partners know when something is bothering them. Each partner understands that their relationship involves two fully committed individuals. Couples with happy and healthy sex lives often do not have unrealistic expectations or make excess demands on their partners.
Also, couples who are truly making love, and not just having a sexual or physical encounter, are putting their mate's needs and pleasure before their own. This is a selfless act of love and passion.
Another sign that a couple has a happy and healthy sex life is that they frequently trying new things in the bedroom. This experimentation can dramatically improve your sex life. When we talk about experimentation in our love life, it can be as simple as having sex in different rooms of the house, at a different time of the day, different positions or trying different things during foreplay. And if both partners agree to it, you can experiment with fantasies and fetishes as long as each partner is respectful of each others feelings and desires. In other words, don't push the boundaries with an unwilling partner.
Unfortunately, in many marriages, especially for couples who have been married for a long time, making love can be seen as a burden and doesn't come easily. Obviously, this is not healthy and it needs to be addressed by both partners. Sex should be something that you and your partner want and need from each other, not a responsibility that needs to be fulfilled. Making love should be a regular, spontaneous expression of your love and passion for your soul mate. If this is true for you and your spouse, my wife and I would love to hear from you by sharing your keys to a successful sex life in your marriage at www.MarriageSoulMates.com. We love hearing from couples who have a very happy and healthy sex life.
Married couples who have been together for many years know that having an active sexual relationship can be difficult. With children, work and other responsibilities, making love can be pushed back to a lower priority. No matter how busy you are, you and your spouse need to find time to have sex.