Written with Dr.Jack Pransky
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Very happy people all have one thing in common, though most of them don’t even know what it is. They spend more
time living in positive, upbeat thinking than the rest of the population. They don’t do it on purpose; it’s natural to them.
If you took a closer look you'd see that they don’t focus on what they don't like in life. They are more enamored with,
more intrigued by, and more interested in the joyful aspects of life. If two poles existed with positivity at one end
and negativity at the other, they would naturally gravitate toward the positive. Because they enjoy it so much they
tend to have more benevolent thinking. They don’t even know they’re doing it because they don't think they're doing
anything. And they're not; they're just being. They would say, "Well, what other way is there to be?"
How do we know this about them? Because we know this about us! It's not that we're happy all the time, but when
we're not we don't take it too seriously. We know it will pass and, lo and behold, the happiness eventually returns.
Unlike many of the people we spoke of above, seeing through the eyes of happiness and positivity did not come
naturally to us. Jack's ex-wife used to call him "Doctor Doom" because he was always looking at what could go
wrong. Lori was depressed for years and spent years talking about it to a therapist!
But we learned something.
We learned about "The Three Principles," and by "principles" we mean "universal truths" or facts about how our
entire experience of life is created—not what happens to us in life, but what we make of what happens to us, or our
internal experience of whatever happens to us. In other words, what we have come to understand about these three
psychological/spiritual principles at the core of all human experience is what brought us to the state in which happy
people naturally live. Anyone can attain a happier, more joyous experience of life with a deep enough understanding
of these principles.
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We do not have enough space here to go into detail about what the three universal principles of Mind, Consciousness
and Thought are, but to cut to the chase, at their essence and most simply, what these principles mean is
that whatever happens in the outside world can never make us happy or unhappy. What makes us happy or unhappy
or any other feeling or emotion comes from our own thinking appearing and feeling real to us. Happy people are
happy because they see themselves and the world through happy eyeballs (their own thinking), plain and simple.
Unhappy people are unhappy because they see the very same things through the eyes of anger or upset or