The first task I tackled was Tamara Green's homework. I like to call this love mentoring session with her to be a lesson in taking a cue from the Beach Boys on cultivating good vibrations. Kind of like quantum psychics. We are a magnet for people, places, and situations that match our frequency. The book Power vs. Force is a whole volume on the matter of vibrations and personal energy. With that in mind, Tamara offered this guidance:
It's all about feeling good. I'll go over more of this on the next group call, but it's really about that. Feeling gratitude and making peace with where you are at now. I know you don't have what you want now, but you must be in the feeling of having it to eventually have it. It's like painting on a canvas. You don't start with a finished painting, but you have a clear picture of what you want in your head.
So, you keep painting, having complete faith that what you had in your head is going to appear on that canvas. You don't give up on the painting because it's not coming out the way don't want. No. You make adjustments and changes and keep at it. Don't give up.
You do the same with your dreams and they will appear - but never how you thought they'd show up. Never. So, throw away your locked-in ideas that it has to be an older man, a European man, etc. and have faith that the Universe is energetically orchestrating it. And, when you are in the space of allowance, he will actualize into your life and you will be surprised that he is better than you had dreamed. Space of allowance = limitless possibilities.
What was provocative about what she said was that it had me ponder what was I vibrating in the first place that drew him and the heartbreak plague into my life? Well, in 2012 I was vibrating around the belief that there was no way the adult version of my teenage celebrity crush could ever like me back. What resonated with me was how impossible it is for a man like to even consider me since I wasn't Lauren Conrad or a typical O.C. chick. No wonder what was my best match was a man who would steal my heart from me but keep his from becoming mine. Perfect match vibrationally speaking. Tamara then went on to say:
You must allow yourself to receive - and begin noticing where the Universe is supporting you already. This can be very subtle but as you do this your "door" opens wider to allowing life to flow through your reality. This energy is very important to your Spirit for you.
Fear is blocking you from receiving. To get out of fear, tell yourself all the things that you are doing to learn to receive, to be at peace with where you are, to allow in love (ex: working with healers, personal growth sessions/groups, books, videos, etc).
Keep reminding yourself all that you are doing now. This puts you in your vibration of having vs not having. The feeling of "having" raises your energy vibration which IS in alignment with your Love Intention.