When it comes to the goings-on behind the closed door of an adult bedroom, most couples seem to think intimacy and self-stimulation are mutually exclusive. In other words, if a couple is intimate they are not – or should not – engage in self-stimulation, and vice versa. Interestingly enough, intimacy and self-stimulation have more of a yin-yang relationship, in which they actually complement each other and can work together to make intimacy as a couple more enjoyable. Learn more about how self-stimulation – and even mutual self-stimulation – can turn OK playtime into great playtime, as well as how to keep the male organ healthy and ready for the ensuing increase in action it is about to experience.
Why Intimacy Becomes Routine
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Most people who have been in a long-term physical relationship have developed a sort of repertoire that they do not deviate from much when getting down and dirty. The reason for this is simple: most adults are tired, very tired. Between juggling kids, work, and an otherwise full schedule, it is not uncommon for a couple to use a bed more for sleeping than for anything else – even if more intimacy is desired. When a night finally comes when both partners can muster up the energy to just do it, they want to do what works and what is going to get fast, reliable results without having to put in too much effort. Sound familiar? Hence, the boring routine is born, sure the couple may not enjoy mind-blowing pleasure each and every time, but it gets the job done.
Why Self-stimulation Works Every Time
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Now, on the other side of the coin is couples, or individuals, who engage in self-love. Whether self-stimulation is reserved for a night when intimacy just isn’t going to happen, is used as part of a relaxing bedtime routine, or is just for fun, it is about as close to a sure thing as there is out there. The reason behind this phenomenon is that no partner can provide the exact type of stimulation the body is craving like oneself. Even the most skillful partner is unlikely to be able to achieve the specific angle, pressure and speed that a man is able to give himself, so from that respect, sometimes self-stimulation provides a faster, easier service than intimacy does. Think of self-stimulation as the ATM of sensuality: guaranteed results without having to deal with an actual person.
How Self-stimulation Can Improve Intimacy