The last few days I've been soul searching. My time was spent meditating, listening to uplifting audiobooks, and reflecting on exercises that have come from many a love coach. In the last year, what began as a commitment in action to turning myself and my love life inside out quickly evolved to a steady diet of love workshops, dating tips, and healing whatever was in the way of love. As with anything I do, I go into a method 100%.
Before, last year, I had been diligently doing Kathryn Alice's program, which resulted in a heartbreak. So I picked myself up, and started again. Learning from experience, I decided that whatever was blocking love from happening was within me. To get out of my own way started with BodyTalk which evolved into soul healing journey with Heather Strang for which I am grateful. Then came Matthew Hussey with his Get the Guy program, It did wonders for my perspective and improving my overall interpersonal skills.
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Afterwards, I enrolled in Debi Berndt's Engaged in a Year program and it too, had a profound effect, because my shadow self got discovered and eliminated from my dating life. Gradually, my perseverance lead me to love mentor Tamara Green whose kindness has brought me to bliss and seeing how much that state of being is essential to cultivate in my life, right here and right now. Devi Ward became my Tantra Yoga teacher so I could get more connected with my body and therefore, more comfortable in my own skin. And most of all, the lovely Anni Powers showed up. She has been a major champion for love for me and for everyone. More matchmakers like her are a must in this modern life of ours. There are countless others who have shown up in my life this past year for whom I'm so blessed to have met.
Along the way, I showed the Universe I was serious and not putting all my eggs in one basket. Having a matchmaker is not a license to be lazy. I continued on with self-love practices like taking myself to the spa and other self-respecting activities. In between making self-growth a priority I made sure to cast a wide net of romantic prospects. One thing was clear to me from the get go: balance. Too much pushing or too little effort wouldn't support attracting love. While I made a point to enjoy the now I did have my online profile made over and got better pictures for Match.com and eHarmony. Since both dating sites were paid and not free I figured the odds were higher that I'd find more serious people.