Charlie the Matchmaker is one of those love gurus who has been happily in love with his true love for over 20 years! I've always said that the best people to ask for love advice are the individuals with the success you want. Charlie is an equal opportunity matchmaker who works with men and women, same-sex and opposite, and includes image consulting as part of his rates. He is also a bestselling author of the book Love Made Easy which is a compilation of his time tested relationship wisdom. Charlie took the time out of his busy schedule as a professional Cupid to explain how easy love is.
This book is a compilation of the advice blogs that I have written over the last four years as a matchmaker. The first two years were spent writing for a straight blog audience and the last two years I have written for the Huffington Post under Gay Voices. I took the best blogs from all four years and rewrote them so that they were not gender specific.
What it boils down to is this; LOVE IS LOVE whether you are male, female, straight or gay. I have four databases in my matchmaking business (www.CharlieTheMatchmaker.com) Straight Male, Gay Male, Straight Woman and Lesbian. The common denominator in all four databases is that each and every one of my clients are looking for the same thing; a committed, happy, long term relationship.
Can you share some nuggets of wisdom from the book that anyone reading this can easily do to change their dating experiences?
The first three rules that you MUST live be are communication, communication, communication. When you are dating someone and getting to know them, do NOT be afraid to ask a question. You may not like the answer that you get but at least you know how they feel about any given situation.
The two chapters that I get the most thanks for are "Lose The Luggage" and "Get Past Your Past" What it boils down to is this. Learn from the mistakes you have made in past relationships but do NOT compare a new love to a past love. It is unfair to compare a new love interest to someone that is no longer in your life.
AND if you have built up walls to not get hurt, break them down. It is unfair to make a new love interest scale the walls you have built around you and THEN get to know you. New relationships are tough enough. Asking someone to do addition work to get to know you is not acceptable.
Describe to me the first date guidelines in the book? How did you come up with them?
The first date guidelines that I have come up with are the ones that have used with my clients since day one. BE SAFE. Always make your first date in a public place.