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The Gateway to Romantic Partnerships with EFT


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EFT Practitioner Alina Frank on using tapping for true love

What is the difference between the eternally single and the happily coupled? It seems to come down to beliefs and the right energy to make true love happen and keep it around. EFT practitioner Alina Frank explained how the gates open to true love easily when one clears the internal barriers that block love. Using EFT, Frank's program Gateway to Romantic Partnership aids in the recalibration of one's belief system to open the gates to love. The following Q&A explains how.

What have you seen as an EFT practitioner who has worked with alot of people, as some very common negative patterns that prevent people from achieving romantic bliss?

The most common negative patterns that I see in my clients that have been stuck in the arena of romantic relationship are not being good enough, not feeling they deserve to be wildly happy, and the belief that there isn’t an ideal romantic partner out there for them. There are many other different sorts of blocks like the belief that you don’t live in the right geographic area or that no one will want you because you are too old, have kids from a previous relationship, etc.

What are the tools in this program that remove the internal barriers to a blissful love relationship?

The tools I use are EFT, Matrix Reimprinting and some advance coaching techniques that I have acquired or development in the decade I have been assisting my clients.

This program has 7 sessions, what are the components of each session?

The sessions are designed based on the individual needs of the client depending on their personal history. It’s the journey from those limiting beliefs to feeling fully empowered to make the right choices and be discerning in every part of their lives.

How does a personal vision board work in this program to optimize effectiveness for the person?

The personal video vision board is something that I played around with when I was looking for my perfect partner. This is a fun story. I had worked on my vision board and created a very rich video with powerful images used specifically to raise my vibration around relationship. One of my beliefs was that no one would want to be with me because I had kids. By applying the exercises I give to my clients I was able to completely collapse that belief within a few short weeks. The new belief rang loud and clear, “this man loves children but for a variety of reasons and his life circumstances he was never able to have kids of his own” I felt that not only did this person need to accept my kids but needed to absolutely love them as another parent. Weeks went by and I used my vision board daily feeling the magic behind the images and words.

Not long afterwards I was invited to speak at a healing arts center on the island where I live. I found it rather odd that I had never met the chiropractor who owned the center since this is a very small community. I did an EFT demo at the center and the meeting with this chiropractor was cordial. About a week later he signed up for my upcoming workshop in Seattle. I found that to be a testament to the quality of the demo I had done but didn’t give it much thought. About a week after that I am at the local children’s festival held annually here at one of our parks. I was chatting with a friend when suddenly someone hugs me from behind. I turn around and see that it’s the chiropractor wearing a really goofy hat. He asked me to stop by his booth after I had finished talking with my friend. I strolled over a few minutes later and there he was completely engaging with all the kids that came to his family chiropractic booth.

The most astonishing thing was that whether the child was in a wheelchair, a teenager, a toddler or anything in between he was really connecting with each and every one on their level. When there was a break in the crowd I said, “Wow, Dr. Craig you really do have a way with children. Do you have kids?” and he looked at me and said, “I love children but for a variety of reasons and my life circumstances I was never able to have kids of my own” Holy crap! My words channeled through him! I sat there completely frozen and when I finally stopped by legs from shaking, I said, “Nice seeing you, I’ve got to go now” He attended my workshop, we became friends, and shortly thereafter romantically involved. That was over 6 years ago and my life has been transformed ever since. We’ve been married for over 3 years and it’s still complete bliss. I hear these stories from my clients all the time and I know this stuff works because I am living proof.

Do you have any guidelines on how a person creates this vision board?

We work together in a co-creative process to make it a completely unique product.

What kinds of writing prompts and exercises are included in the program to reinforce positive changes?

Again that varies from client to client but it does indeed add to the value of the work that’s done during the sessions.

Are there particular modalities that you recommend someone also use to support the changes they are seeking to develop in this program, such as hypnosis or EMDR?

I think that EMDR in the hands of the right therapist is great and would refer someone out to do that if necessary. Matrix Reimprinting, which I use in almost every session, includes elements of hypnosis and is very deep work. It’s also quite fun. Doing this kind of healing work is important on the path to creating a dream love life. However, I am a firm believer in aligned action to match these kinds of inner changes.

Do you think that people will have a different experience of online dating by going through this program successfully? The reason I ask is that when I read you post about the dark side of the law of attraction, it reminded me of how many dating and relationship coaches seem to blame the person for other people's behavior. For example, if they are encountering rude people online it has to do with the thoughts they are broadcasting. To a point that is true but ultimately a person is only responsible for themselves and how they act, not another person.

That article, and subsequent video I did exclusively for the EFT Hub, was about how unconscious forces are at play drawing you to situations and people that are in alignment with that. It’s all underneath the radar of conscious thought so it’s not helpful at all to tell someone to “buck up” and change your thinking. That’s like putting icing on a pile of crap – it’s still going to stink. To me the only thorough way is through the realm of the subconscious and that’s why at the end of the day no matter what new fangled system is out there EFT and Matrix Reimprinting EFT are my tools of choice every time.

Tell me more about your Learn2FindLove program which influenced Gateway to Romantic Partnerships?

The Learn2FindLove program is on hiatus for the time being but it really confirmed the notion that you have to be selective and not settle for anything less than the ideal partner. Again, I speak from experience.

How does a person quickly learn to use the tapping chart correctly on their own to improve their results?

The simplest way to learn is to sign up for my newsletter www.tapyourpower.net and you will receive a quick start guide. Anyone can learn basic and simple EFT on their own but here’s the analogy I like to use: a dentist can floss his own teeth, brush his own teeth, even get in there with his instruments but he would never attempt to do root canal on himself!

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