Why does communication seem so difficult for some married couples? Why is argument the go-to communication strategy?

In this new video, Marriage therapist and counselor Mary Kay Cocharo talks you through the steps you'll need to take to become a better listener and speaker in your relationship. First step? Stop yelling! “When you’re yelling, you’re in a reactive state,” Cocharo explains, “and the part of your brain that you need to solve the problem is not even available.” After that, discover what it really means to W-A-I-T.

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