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STAYING POSITIVE WHILE SINGLE: RITA PAM'S PERSPECTIVE


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A Brief Interview with author, Rita Pam Tarachi.

I recently had an email chat with author, Rita Pam Tarachi. She's not just an author. She's also a singer, songwriter and missionary. She is also very passionate about animals. What sets Rita Pam apart from the crowd is that she writes from a Christian point of view; encouraging singles and couples to approach their relationships the decent christian way. Though she's recently penned a book on relationships, what's ironical is Rita Pam is very guarded and private when it comes to her private life; she says little about her personal relationships and shares almost nothing pertaining that department. As we all know, there's a growing trend in the celeb-world were many have decided to become extremely private about their personal lives. And this is not different with Rita Pam, though she doesn't exactly see herself as a celebrity as she's insisted many times "I'm just a servant of GOD doing His Will on earth, an instrument in His Hands"

Below are a few excerpts from her new book, POWERFUL PRAYERS OF PRAISE AND PETITION FOR SINGLES AND COUPLES:

"...Marriage is not for everyone. In the Bible, we’re told: “This teaching does not apply to everyone, but only to those to whom God has given it. For there are different reasons why men cannot marry: some, because they were born that way; others, because men made them that way; and others do not marry for the sake of the Kingdom of Heaven. Let him who can accept this teaching do so” (Matthew 19.11-12)
No matter what you do, never get angry at God. If he pulls you out of a relationship, it doesn’t mean He’s a sad God. It means He’s favoured you. Read gory stories on the web of women whose eyes have been gorged out, have been scarred for life. These stories are all over the web. Now, try to imagine for a second that it was you in their position. Envision it. How it’d feel to never be able to use your eyes forever until you die. Isn’t it better then to leave a relationship with your physical parts intact than having to regret and say “If only I’d noticed the warning signs earlier” "

"After a break-up, you may feel un-lovable and ugly. Un-wanted. You may even lose your will to live but listen, just when all hope seems lost, just when you’re about to lose hope, that’s when a miracle happens. Believe in God and what He can do for you. Remember, with Him, everything is possible."

Now, let's hear from Rita Pam herself... I asked her a few questions via email and i must say, i was touched and inspired. I hope her words can bless you as much as they've blessed me.

ME: Tell me, do you think people are losing faith in relationships these days? With the hardship that exists in the world, many people would rather remain single, do you agree?

RITA PAM: I think hardship is not a factor when choosing whom to date or when to date. People still get married these days so i think life goes on. The times we live in are hard but having someone to go through the struggle with you, that is a blessing.

ME: Good point. I see it all over the place, many people are finding it hard to keep relationships nowadays; everyone is busy with one thing or the other. Can a relationship survive this? I mean, wouldn't it be easier to just focus on being single instead of making someone go through rough times with you?

RITA PAM: People find it hard to keep or maintain relationships because they've got their priorities wrong. If you're going to be in a committed relationship then it takes exactly that to make it work - Commitment!! A good relationship or marriage is worth the hard work. Many people buy into the notion that after marriage, all the hard work ends but that's far from the truth. For anything to last really, it takes constant hardwork. If you put your family before work and commit to giving them an important place in your life, then you'd yield good results.

ME: Excellent. What hope is there for the single man or woman who constantly keeps seeking a partner but just gets disappointed time and time again?

RITA PAM: I'd say, chase GOD as your first love, instead. Chase Him and seek Him everyday and He will make you the right person for your future spouse. It's about turning the focus on yourself. Instead of seeking the right person, commit to being the right person by getting closer to GOD. I know many have lost hope. Sometimes the best way to solve a problem is to stop being part of the problem. There may be pressure to date or get married but there's more to life than just dating or getting married. Marriage is about two individuals who come together to become one, which means you do have a life. There are many things that make a person who they are. Rather than wallow in pity at one aspect of your life, commit to developing yourself in other areas of your life and in due time, you'd end up happy. That's my take on it.

ME: Sometimes, it's very hard to stay positive.

RITA PAM: I know. But this comes when we try to take on GOD's role in our lives. Why worry when worry solves nothing? A relationship doesn't define an entire individual. There are many beautiful areas of a person's life. While waiting, commit to developing yourself and spending time with GOD. That way, you're preparing to be the right man or woman for your future spouse.

ME: Thank you for your time today, i've been inspired by your words

RITA PAM: Thank you too!!

Well, that's about it. I hope these words have encouraged you. You can get Rita Pam's new book at the following Links: iTunes http://bit.ly/YlDRi7
Barnes&Noble http://bit.ly/168shXd
Amazon http://amzn.to/14kKcMn

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