Has it been past 6 months and you still catch yourself taking a peek at your old photos? Replaying your precious moments over and over again in your head? Still waiting for that one reply to your numerous messages and harboring that heavy feeling and needle-piercing chest pain whenever you see your ex?
Then it's true, you haven't moved on. You still have the symptoms of a broken heart. You're trying so hard to cling to the past that seemed to be ages over for the other party.
Tired of the emotional turmoil? Then look at yourself and ask what you really want. If you're looking for a way out, then these highly effective ways to move on are the best cure to mend a broken heart. And there is no better time to move on than now, so don't prolong your agony.
First and foremost, make sure that you have fully coped with your situation. It may be a lot to take in, but the first step of releasing the pain is to accept it with open arms.
2. No Room for Regrets
To say that the things between your ex and you are over comes with no regrets about your relationship. You just have to accept that you have loved, you were happy once, and thankfully you met each other. Regrets have a way of ruining happy memories that you had shared. Just think of those memories as precious souvenirs of a love that was once true and full of joy.
3. One Day at a Time
No need to rush yourself, healing takes time. And the process of it differs from person to person. There is no fastest or easiest way to do it, but in time you will be able to do it. Yes, it gets hard to believe someone who says “It just takes time” or that “in time, it will heal,” but to tell you the truth, a cliché is a cliché because they are found to be true, or most often right.
4. Avoid Thinking Too Much
It says it all. Don't punish yourself by drowning yourself in your sea of memories. Pull yourself up and don't lock your thoughts in that area alone. Thinking about the past too often can only cause misery and helplessness.
5. “Everything happens for a reason”
Heartbreaks can only make you stronger and feel better once you have overcome the hurdles. Either by fate or by choice, whatever happens in your life has its purpose. You may not know it yet, but better things are right up ahead you just have to learn when to look.
6. Do Something New, Challenge Yourself
Rather than intoxicating yourself with alcohol, for the meantime, keep your mind preoccupied with a different routine than usual. Enter a sport that you've always wanted to learn or engage yourself in trying out different things that challenge you to be better. It's a part of moving forward with your life.
7. Talk About It
Sometimes you feel so alone in dealing with this kind of heartache even when you're not. Don't pent it all up, release some of it by talking to your family or friends about it.
8. Let The Past Go
“Letting go doesn't mean that you don't care about someone anymore. It's realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.”
Set both of you free from the chains that bind you to the past. There is no more reason for you cling to it anymore, it would just hurt you more. It would be like holding a rose with thorns, the tighter your grasp is the more painful it gets.
9. Open Yourself Up To New Possibilities
Don't close your doors. Open your heart to new sources of joy, let happiness come to you. How can you be happy again when you shoo it away at an instant? Cast away the fear of knowing nothing but the past and embrace what the future holds.
As Christopher Columbus once said, you can never cross the ocean unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore.