By Ashley DelBello for CupidsPulse.com
Dating isn’t easy – especially if you’re in a large city like Los Angeles or New York. It seems like everyone gets easily distracted by the next best thing that comes along or really isn’t looking to settle into anything serious. What makes it harder is that we have these ideas of what we should and shouldn’t do that are large misconceptions and don’t make finding that special someone any easier.
So what are these common dating myths that we fall into a trap of believing?
Myth #1: You have to play the game and can’t let on that you’re actually interested. This is true when you first start dating someone new. There does need to be a sense of mystery or “the chase,” but you can’t be too unavailable or act too nonchalant. In a previous Cupid’s Pulse article, we spoke with relationship expert Melanie Mar and she cautioned that while there does need to be some element of that chase, it has to be balanced.
“If a woman is being non-responsive in the beginning of a relationship when a man is actively engaging and pursuing her, she definitely will experience a feeling of control, but it will be short-lived. Eventually he will grow tired of chasing someone who acts as if she’s not interested – even if she truly is – and he will stop the chase,” said Mar. So, don’t follow these so-called rules of “the game” too closely as you risk losing out on someone really cool. If you’re interested, show it – just don’t overwhelm the guy.
Myth #2: Online dating is a last resort and only the desperate do it. Not true. Online dating is becoming more of the norm. In fact, there are 40 million people in the United States who have tried online dating and one in five dating site users go on to marry someone they met online. Go ahead and ask around – most people you know have probably experimented with online dating. And they’re probably cool people because they’re your friends, right?