What's Right About This That I'm Not Seeing?

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What's Right About This That I'm Not Seeing?
How my love mentor Tamara Green helped my right brain see how perfect it was

When I joined Tamara Green's group love coaching series I knew that it was time to face the residual factors that were in the way of love for me. For a long time it felt like I had a Berlin Wall in my heart that kept the old stuff but left the new good stuff out. Committed to removing all the barriers within me to love I picked up the book Love in 90 Days by Dr. Diana Kirschner and decided to immerse myself utterly in her method. Tamara came to my attention because she was a love mentor trained by Dr. Kirschner. Despite my lack of love results from the lazy method of Religious Science practitioner Kathryn Alice, I was willing to try again.

Then I hit the wall a week later. Every time I watched the news it would happen. Certain stories would remind me of him. Inevitably I'd start to wonder how he was and most poignantly, would hope he was OK. Was I crazy? I'm smart and old enough to know the stupidity of caring for someone who didn't give a damn about me. Yet here I was being a fool.

 

So I asked Tamara, why am I doing this? How can I redirect this care and concern to another who reciprocates? Her response was to ask myself, what is right about this that I am not seeing. Then she said not to answer it but intend that my intuitive side would eventually show me the right answer.

One week later the answer dawned on me while doing yoga. My intuition said to me that he was not what my soul needed. Oddly enough, someone else had made that comment to me a month earlier when I was in tears over something else. For some reason, I just didn't hear it fully. As I was doing an asana and deep breathing the thought ran through my mind that gave me an A-HA moment. My inner wisdom said that had a love relationship with him started it would have stunted both our soul growths. I would have missed out on the inner clearing that my soul and psyche urgently needed by working with healers like Tamara Green, Heather Strang, Debi Berndt, et al. I breathed out a sigh of relief and a sense of satisfaction that I had my own right answer. Everything that happened was in divine order for my highest good and everyone else.

Last year I had a "love at first sight" experience over a man who was everything I had always wanted. Still is. But I was in a place with my relationship with self that had he not rejected me in favor of another, it would have been awful. There was alot of stuff in me that I had to heal, release, etc. Old dragons of resentment, having a chip on my shoulder, and ego-driven insecurities specific to love and men would have been a recipe for a toxic type of dynamic. I would have constantly made this man prove to me that he really did choose me, if he had, and driven both of us to exhaustion.