Jane Garapick is the popular writer of GettingToTrueLove.com. Her mission is to provide words of wisdom during tough times. Originally from Vancouver, British Columbia, Jane now lives in Washington State with her husband and two children. In her early career, Jane volunteered as a suicide prevention counselor and conducted workshops to high school students who were at risk. She is a psychology graduate of Simon Fraser University and applies both her personal life experiences and academic background towards guiding her readers towards love supporting choices. After discovering Jane’s blog, I have become a regular reader, and enjoy the down-to-Earth mother-sister wisdom in her weekly posts. Sometimes the best people to go to for true love advice are those who have the kind of relationship you want.
1. What inspired you to starting your blog Getting to TRUE Love?
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It began with a conversation I was having with one of my friends from my single days, reminiscing about the guys we used to date, and how different they were from the ones we actually married. I then realized that I wanted to spread this message to as many single women out there as I could. Women who, like I used to, think that they know what are the most important qualities for a guy to have, but many of those qualities are actually not what really matters when you’re married and living the everyday life together as a married couple.
For example I realized that the types of men I was attracted to, men that at the time held so much power over me, would, in reality, have made the worst possible husbands and fathers. I now see it as a gift that things didn't work out with them, and I’ve now learned from experience what is really important. I wanted to spare other single women so much of the pain and heartbreak of what I went through because I really understand where they’re coming from and what they’re going through having been there myself not too long ago. Then, when I came across Brene Brown and read her work and saw that she was talking about the subject of shame and authenticity that relates directly to the place I was coming from, she further inspired me to do this. When I saw a video of her speaking and saw that she was just a regular person with a passion for helping people, I had my "aha" moment and realized this was the time!
2. Is there a particular purpose that your blog is for?
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To spread this message to as many women as possible who might be even slightly ready to hear what someone else might have to say; someone who’s been there, who gets them, who understands and wants them to know they’re not alone!
3. There are plenty of blogs on finding love out there, what is different about yours?