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6 Things You Want In Bed (And How To Get Them)

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Sex Advice: What You Want In Bed (And How To Get It)
You might need to put on a little "show and tell"...
How do you get your message across without having to literally spell it out for him?

By Anna Davies for Self

Show-And-Tell
"My breasts are really sensitive, and when my boyfriend manhandled them, it hurt. So I traced my fingers on his arm to show him the way I love being touched. And once he understood, wow! After that, all I had to do was lightly press my fingers into his back and whisper 'Like this' to remind him to go easy." —Julie, 36

Slow His Roll
"My ex was a jackhammer in bed, but when we were just making out, his hips moved slower. So the next time we were kissing on the couch, I initiated sex and told him to keep moving like that. Afterward, I told him how much I liked his moves, and he got it." —Jenna, 28

Be A Little Demanding
"When I need him to change things up, I tell him what I want in a sexy, dominatrix-y voice. It gets the job done, plus role playing is a turn-on for both of us." —Lauren, 31

Rank Your Faves
"I dated a guy who rarely initiated oral—that's a no-go for me. When we were lying in bed talking about sex, I asked him to rank intercourse, manual and oral, in terms of his pleasure. Then I did the same. Guess what he did first thing the next time we hooked up?" —Kelly, 24

Get Hands-On
"I love having my clit stimulated when I'm on top, but he'll only do it for a bit. So I'll stroke myself and really get into it. Almost immediately, he'll want to take over, and I'll turn up my enthusiasm 100 percent so he knows I enjoy it way more when he does it." —Amary, 25

Just Say This
"Whenever I tell him, 'It would be so hot if you did ____ to me right now,' he does it, without fail." —Amy, 33

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