5 Ways To Keep The Spark Alive At Any Stage Of Your Relationship

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5 Ways To Keep The Spark Alive At Any Stage Of Your Relationship
Keep the passion alive, no matter how long you've been together.

3. Make love with your eyes wide open
Practice eye gazing, even if it's just five seconds. Look up and see the person speaking to you across the counter.  Look up and hold your partner’s gaze when he or she shares concerns about the car or the kids. The practice of training your eyes on the ones you love, extending from five seconds to thirty will teach you the truth of finding eternity in a minute. It will also prepare you for the simplest yet most extraordinary shift you can make to your physical love-making. The vast majority of couples make love in the dark with their eyes shut. Cracking your eyes open to witness the person above or below you enables you to share the most entwined poses available to us. This loving gaze will surprise, bewilder and connect you like nothing else. But, this intimate task is harder than it sounds. Bearing full witness to the person you love during the act of love making requires stepping outside of your own experience so you can be consumed by the power and depth of your erotic self. Our sexual fulfillment has many expressions: sexual release appears sometimes painful, sometimes ecstatic, sometimes effortful, and, sometimes, the essence of deep appreciation. Connection is not about how we look. Having courage to both witness and be seen in the many faces that love generates will keep sparks flying.

4. Breathe together
The communication you share in your relationship is the very breath of your love and also the currency of energy that sustains or depletes the life force between you. Practice aligning your breathing by listening more to the pauses between the words, to the tone of voice exchanged and to what is your lover is attempting to communicate instead of just focusing on the words alone. Taking this practice into the bedroom is like adding jet fuel to the heat that penetration generates. Aligned breathing regulates the container of your passion so that both partners share the continuous awareness of each other’s deepest states. This kind of sexual listening opens the simple yet profound transformative force of awakened love to your intimate life. Again, this practice is more challenging than it sounds on the surface. Adding breath consciousness elevates penetrative rhythms into a rain dance and conversation into connection.

5. Penetration and lubrication
 I never pull out the lubricant until I can't stand it anymore, until I can't wait another minute. Accepting anyone into you as deeply as intercourse provides for is a sacred and life-changing moment. Lubrication eases the entry and creates a dynamic smooth gliding of tissue against tissue. Healthy lubricant ingredients not only soothe and heal during their use, but also build the elasticity and integrity of the tissue over time. There is nothing more explosive and deeply satisfying than sharing the fireworks of deep intimacy and connection of our most private selves.

Written by Wendy Strgar from Care2.

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