Useful advice from people you've never met. Ah, the internet.
We scoured reddit to find you the best of the best, the most useful relationship hacks redditors had to offer. Whether you need tips on PMS, haircuts, or cuddling we’ve got it! Read on to properly hack your relationship.
It's always good to think ahead.
I know a guy who has a standing $10 tip with his wife's hair dresser. He gets a call each time his wife gets her hair cut with a brief description of what was done. Wife walks in the door, he says "Honey, did you get your hair done? It's a bit shorter and looks great!" Winners all around. — malevolent_nuthatch
Hide chocolate around the house, in random places. When roommate/girlfriend is PMSing, crampy, hormonal, and miserable, and calls me at work to complain about feeling terrible, tell her to look behind the silverware tray, under the couch cushion, behind the plant, etc. Instant comfort, and it shows that you care enough to go to the trouble to prevent problems before they happen. ... Of course, this can lead to her craving chocolate when she's not feeling crampy and awful, which can lead to you coming home to find her trapped on top of the fridge, unable to get down, after having searched for chocolate. — danudey
Well, not as interesting as a sex hack, I suppose, but...
My fiance gets really upset with me if I work late and forget to text her. I often forget, and she won't make the first move to text me. It was getting to be a huge deal.
Then I discovered Llama for my Android phone. I setup a script that fires if the time is after 6:40 (I usually leave work by 6:15), if I am still connected to the cell tower at work, and if I can still see the wifi network. This script sends a text that says, 'I'm going to be working late tonight', and dings to let me know it sent.
It's been working fantastic. I just recently added a new one that fires if the time is after 5:00pm, and I have just left the work cell tower area, that sends a 'I am on my way home' message. She has been super pleased at how consistent I have been about letting her know what is going on, and the best part is that I don't even have to remember to do anything. Thanks technology! — sacwtd
My girlfriend always falls [asleep] watching tv on the computer. Usually, I hold the laptop while she lays on my chest. She always falls asleep first, leaving me with the tricky task of rolling her off of me without waking her up.
Following some stupid suggestion I read in a magazine, I squeeze her gently, give her an audible kiss on the head, and then roll her over. I repeated these exact steps every time she went to sleep, with success.
After a year, I decided it was time to put my hard work to the test. She fell asleep on my chest as usual, but this time all I did was give her a light kiss on the forehead. As if by magic, she immediately rolled over! Now, no matter what position she falls asleep in, I can make her roll over just by making a kissing sound. — dacjames
From male perspective:
1. Have a stash of gifts ready at any moment.
2. When she tells you her problems, don't give her advice. Just listen.
3. Have a moment of gratitude with her every day, and let her know something about her that you really appreciate. — HOWTONOTGIVEAF*#K
Actually, better than just listening is asking questions. That way, you sound interested, she knows you're listening, and you can give advice by asking subtly leading questions that cause her to arrive personally to a good conclusion. I've recently begun to follow the 'ask questions instead of giving advice' philosophy and it has made interactions with my loved ones so much smoother. — hitthehead
From a female perspective:
My husband and I don't fight very often, but when we do we decided we needed a sign to let the other person know that we still care and we're still there for them. So, we will hold hands and take turns squeezing the other's hand. It works very well for us. It lets us know that the arguing isn't about me vs. you, it's us vs. this issue. We know that both of us are working towards a goal where everyone is happy and that we still love one another. — Lostfiniel
I listen to him when he talks, even if it's about something I find intolerably boring and ask follow up open-ended questions. This makes him happy and more likely to listen to the things I want to talk about, which he probably finds pretty boring as well.
I always meet him at the door with a beverage, a hug and kiss and a smile. This puts him in a good mood, so he doesn't stress and ruin my night when he's had a bad day.
We go for walks together every day if possible. Gives us both some exercise and fresh air and some time to bond.
When I'm angry, I excuse myself and I go take a shower. It relaxes me and I think more rationally so that I can fight fair or apologize afterward. By the time I get out, one of us is usually sorry anyway.
Whenever he wants me to try something he enjoys, I give it a fair shot. He really likes it when I take interest in his hobbies, some simply do not catch on because of my short attention span and my own hobbies that take up a lot of my time, but if it makes him happy I will give it a try most of the time. — ohsnipsnap
And finally, the most obvious, how-did-we-not-think-of-this hack:
Whenever I put on my robe and wizard hat... she leaves me alone. - Jintek