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Blow Job Basics


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I love giving my partner a blow job. I think it’s one of the most intimate acts between two people ever. Giving great head is less about technique and more about enthusiasm. But I realize not all ladies share my sentiment for their partner’s member and might need some new ideas to shake it up in the sack, so here are a few SIMPLE ideas to make it memorable:
 Warm him up—after a little making out, nibble your way down until you can fellate a finger. Watch him. Stare into his eyes. Men are visual creatures! Bite the fleshy parts of his hand, but just a little nibble! No need to draw blood! Now head south and bring the tip of his penis to your lips. Trace them with the head of his unit, keeping his gaze. Keep it slow for now, though.
 The Frenulum—if your guy has been circumcised, this is pretty easy to find. Using the flat, top of your tongue, firmly rub your tongue against it. It’s a super-sensitive spot for your guy and you’ll see him shift underneath you.
 Use your hands! With one or both of your hands, circle them around his rocket, put your mouth on top and go to town. Experiment with different directions, lace your fingers together and keep it WET. Let the saliva ooze out of your mouth. Being a little raunchy goes a long way, here. If your mouth is dry, use some flavored lube. Try my favorite from the Intimate Organics line (http://www.lionsden.com/lubes-lotions/vanilla-carmel-flavored-lube-120ml...).
 Use toys! Try a bullet vibrator up against his balls or a cock ring turned backwards while he’s in your mouth (http://www.lionsden.com/sex-toys/royal-rabbit-kit.html). The We-Vibe & the Tiani 2 are great to use on your man if you want to stimulate his G-Spot (http://www.lionsden.com/sex-toys/tiani-2-deep-rose.html). Insert one end (you know where) and let the top rest against his jewels. Now get to sucking! The multiple sensations will send him into orbit!

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