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Divorce the Snore and Keep Your Spouse


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Snoring can be detrimental to the health of any relationship, especially marriage.

“…from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health.”

When a young couple makes vows and gets married they not only make a commitment to each other, but they become one in the eyes of the law as well as their family and friends. As is customary in our culture they display this commitment by sharing everything from their income to their bed, and for many young couples who are in love the opportunity to spend every night together is a welcomed one. But what happens when your first night together isn’t as restful as you thought? What happens when you realize you married a snorer?

If you find yourself in this position there’s no doubt you’ll eventually become frustrated, and even annoyed at your partner’s incessant snoring, but don’t fear! There are a few ways you can divorce the snore and keep your spouse, but before you can do that you need to understand a few things.

How Snoring Affects Your Marriage

Unaddressed snoring can have damaging effects on a marriage because it disrupts the physical health of your spouse. For the partner of a snorer lack of sleep is often the most common side effect. Because sleep is so important to your overall physical health, lacking an adequate amount of sleep on a regular basis can be pretty damaging to your health, your mood, and ultimately your marriage. A spouse who experiences a lack of sleep may become irritable or easily angered, which is definitely a situation a newly married couple would be wise to avoid.

The Importance of Addressing a Snoring Problem Early

For the spouse of a snorer, feelings of annoyance, resentment and even detachment are common, especially if the non-snoring spouse is introverted and not particularly good and voicing their feelings. Instead of just “putting up with it” or ignoring it and hoping that it goes away it’d be best to address a snoring problem as soon as it becomes bothersome and avoid marital strife altogether. How to Deal with a Snoring Partner Here are some helpful steps you can take to minimize any problems caused by a snoring partner.

  1. The non-snoring partner should let the snoring partner know that they snore. It should be addressed in a firm, but loving way. Let them know that their snoring causes a loss of sleep and impacts the well being of the non-snoring partner. 
  2. The snoring partner will need to be willing to try multiple remedies like these, and if they fail to work then professional medical help may be needed to solve the snoring problem. 
  3. Do not resort to “easy” methods like sleeping on the couch or going to bed sooner than the snoring spouse. While these temporary solutions may be the least stressful way to deal with the problem, the ramifications of sleeping in a separate room or going to bed earlier than your spouse are far reaching and should be avoided.
  4. While snoring is bothersome for the spouse who lays awake at night, it is most likely just as bothersome for the spouse who snores. It’s not uncommon that a snoring spouse may take offense at the suggestion that something needs to be done to curb their snoring. For this reason it’s wise to address the issues in a way that reaffirms your commitment, while offering to help the snorer.
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